Sign Up Your Sons for Girl Scouts

“What are little boys made of?” the old-fashioned rhyme asks. “Snakes and snails, and puppy-dogs’ tails.” And what are little girls made of? “Sugar and spice and everything nice.”

I know it’s not exactly scientific, and there are wide ranges of personality and interests among boys and girls. But this little ditty speaks to a basic truth that used to be taken for granted — that boys and girls are well, different.

I say “used to be taken for granted” with a heavy heart, because our morally confused culture is rapidly losing the ability to tell the difference between the sexes. And we all know who the losers will be.

The latest example of this confusion comes in the person of Bobby Montoya, a seven-year-old pint-sized Colorado boy who wears dresses and is, as advocates of so-called “gender non-conformity” say, “living as a girl.”

Bobby, you see, identifies himself as a girl and wants to join the local Girl Scouts’ troop. The troop leader initially refused, saying quite accurately that he has “boy parts.” But that wasn’t the end of the story. The Girl Scouts of Colorado has since said it is an “inclusive organization” and I quote, “if a child lives life as a girl,” then he or she is welcome to join. The Girl Scouts went on: “When a family requests membership for their daughter, we do not require proof of gender, we respect the decisions of families.” Proof of gender?

So apparently gender is based more on feelings and decisions rather than an unfair, arbitrary thing like anatomy or the science of biology. The dictionary defines “male” as being: “Of, relating to, or being the sex that has organs to produce sperm for fertilizing ova.” A secondary definition of “male” says “masculine.”

Such facts mean nothing amid today’s moral confusion.

Now, let me say that I’m not criticizing Bobby. I don’t know him, his home life, or anything about him other than what has been reported in the media. We all face challenges, and this is a real big one. But if Bobby can’t get clear guidance and help from his own family, not to mention society as a whole, he will likely face a lifetime of devastation.

Such help needs to begin by simply remembering that there is a moral as well as physical order to the universe. It’s inscribed on all creation. The Christian worldview clearly embraces an objective moral order, and living by this is the way to human flourishing.

A basic building block of the Christian worldview is found in Genesis chapter 1: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”

Here we see truth that can help us confront our society’s moral confusion: Human beings are created; we are created in God’s image; and we are created male and female.

Our society, unfortunately, operates on the assumption that we are not created but are simply cosmic accidents; that “male” and “female” are social constructs that can be used or discarded at will; and if there is a God at all, we are that God. And as such, we can decide not only what is right and wrong, but whether we are male or female, “transgendered,” “gender-non-conformists,” you name it.

But however much we repeat those lies, they remain untrue, and, ultimately, unworkable — no matter how many Bobby Montoyas there may be. Let’s continue to speak this truth in love — for the sake of all the Bobbies in the world.

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  • philipgray

    Since I am a straight happily married 42 year old male that was a member of the girl scouts, I’m having a hard time trying to follow your logic. I was a member simply because my sister was a member and my mother needed a place for me, the girl scout troop invited me in with open arms. I certainly don’t see myself as immoral or confused by having once been a member.
    By including a male member, the girl scouts aren’t endorsing co-ed sleeping arrangements or shared bath rooms, so where is the issue?

  • This is why my daughter is in American Heritage Girls. They honor God, they don’t deal with Planned Parenthood and it is ONLY girls. They have also teamed up with the Boy Scouts of America. Notice that BSA didn’t team up with the Girl Scouts, they chose AHG instead due to their common mission and values.

  • Children (and adults) like Bobby need our prayers.

  • Rather than turn this into a civil rights issue that can further the agenda of special interests, I wish more people were concerned about this child’s real well being. There are some really helpful resources out there for children struggling with gender identity disorder. It’s silly to try and force this child into the Girl Scouts rather than focus on the help he needs.

  • lkeebler

    The fear of God is the beginning of Wisdom. In the absence of (the fear of) God all forms of evil and foolishness flourishes.

    Psalm 111:10 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom;
    all who follow his precepts have good understanding.
    To him belongs eternal praise.

  • Clare with no i

    Philipgray, your situation seems to me to have been totally unlike that of the boy in Colson’s story. He is wearing dresses and “living as a girl,” which you presumably were not doing. The problem here is, the GS are allowing this poor little boy to continue in his confusion about his identity as a boy. Betcha anything that he does indeed plan to use the ladies’ room and sleep in the same tents as the (other?) girls… In contrast, you don’t sound like you had any confusion at all, and the GS allowed you to join for totally different reasons. If you had tried to join because you thought of yourself as a girl, well, that would have been a very different story, and I hope that the GS would have prevented you from becoming a member.

  • philipgray

    “If you had tried to join because you thought of yourself as a girl, well, that would have been a very different story, and I hope that the GS would have prevented you from becoming a member.”

    For what it’s worth, I wore the skirt outfit in the girl scouts just like the rest. I just didn’t care what I wore at that age and I wasn’t out to meet women or men. I still don’t care what other people choose to wear or what they do that doesn’t cause others physical injury. That’s just not the kind of person I am.
    So, let me get this straight. The issue is that people dislike the way the boy thinks, even though it doesn’t seem to be causing them any real harm? If that’s the case, what happened to the morals of the people that are judging the boy? Can you not judge judge the kindness of your actions by his perspective?

  • philipgray

    And BTW: Even though I wore a skirt in the girl scouts, I’m a infantry army veteran with a wife and five great kids. People are different everywhere. That doesn’t make their differences evil or wrong. It’s just not morally right to restrict the freedom and free will of someone who’s actions are not causing anyone else any physical harm. It’s the GOLDEN RULE. You would not appreciate someone to treat you the same way in reverse.