Am I a Wimpy Leader?

  • Lack of Integrity

As a leader, it is critical to be intentional in my message – to have my words and actions in sync with my message, especially with kids. “Do as I say – not as I do” is not an option. A great leader is accountable.

As in my experience, opportunities to be leaders often catch us unawares. Recently, at an event, I witnessed college students screaming for their leader to join them while he was in mid conversation. Finally, one student grabbed him by the arm and pulled him away mid sentence. No, the place was not on fire and no one was dying – they wanted to take a picture! Since it didn’t happen at the time, I am hoping that later their leader was able to teach those “kids” that interruption of that sort is self serving, rude and disrespectful. For myself, I commit that if faced with a similar situation again, I will have the mettle not to worry about “offending” someone who is being offensive. I should’ve had the courage to say “You need to stop your lewd behavior because I for one do not want to witness it!”

The Bible tells us in Acts 20:28 So keep watch over yourselves and over all the flock, which the Holy Spirit has placed in your care. Be shepherds of the church of God, which he made his own through the sacrificial death of his Son.”

When we bemoan the demise of morality in our society today, I believe we need to question our own contribution to that demise. Whether we lead from pulpit, pen or parliament, we “leaders” have been blessed with the priceless gift of “followers” and burdened with the responsibility of affecting change.  I pray we realize that we have the capacity to influence lives.

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Marisa Pereira is a mother, fashion designer, currently runs a Design and Image Consulting business in Atlanta, GA, is a freelance writer and volunteers at her church and in the community. She holds a BA in Fashion Design and a BA in French with a minor in Psychology and has worked in the Fashion Industry for over twenty years. Frustrated at her inability to find appropriate church clothes for her 14 year old daughter, she heeded God’s call, and created the stylish but modest, Michaela-Noel clothing collection, now available on-line. Having lived in multiple countries, she is acutely aware of the emphasis cultures place on visual appeal. She analyzes the importance of presenting the best image of ourselves and passionately insists that it starts within. She regularly addresses adult and youth audiences – encouraging and teaching them to make a memorable first impact but more importantly - to create a lasting impression. Her websites are: and

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