While it is certainly true that many people have this understanding or attitude towards the Ten Commandments, it just so happens that the complete opposite is true. The reality, you see, is that the reason God gave them to us was not to limit or restrict us, but rather to set us free free from sin. Who is it that knows us better than the One who made us? Because we belong to God who loves us so much, the only way we can be truly free and happy is when we live according to His ways. That is when we become “who we really are” sons and daughters of the One, True, and Living God. It is precisely when we try to be “who we are not” that we are not free.
Deep within every human heart, God inscribes what is known as the natural law, a sort of code of moral conduct by which our reason tells us whether something is in conformity with our true human nature (Romans 2:15). All of those things that are not in agreement with our nature we are obviously to avoid because ultimately they will not fulfill us. In other words, they will hinder and possibly destroy the possibility of attaining our true destiny, heaven. This should make sense. Would we feed our bodies gasoline when they are made to live on food and water? This same basic principle applies to the moral order of our lives, for we are a people who are a unity of body and soul. The Ten Commandments are, if you will, a summary of this natural law, which reveals all that is good for us. When the Hebrews, wandering in the desert, failed to obey the natural law inscribed within them, God then gave to them the revealed law the Ten Commandments.
In his beautiful encyclical Veritatis Splendor (the Splendor of Truth) the Holy Father John Paul II tells us that man’s freedom is not unlimited. Every human person “is called to accept the moral law given by God. In fact, human freedom finds its authentic and complete fulfillment precisely in the acceptance of that law. God, who alone is good, knows perfectly what is good for man, and by virtue of his very love proposes this good to man in the commandments. God's law does not reduce, much less do away with human freedom; rather, it protects and promotes that freedom” (n. 35).
Throughout the Scriptures, a certain theme is woven in, that in life, there are two roads, the road to life and the road to death. By this we mean eternal life and eternal death, for we know that this life here on earth is temporary. If you can imagine this: On the road to life there are signposts, if you will, and these signposts are the Ten Commandments. This connection between the commandments and eternal life is clearly demonstrated by Jesus in the story of the rich young man in Matthew’s Gospel. When asked, “Teacher, what must I do to gain eternal life?” He answered him, “If you wish to enter into life, keep the commandments” (Matthew 19: 16-17).
Yes, to many the commandments seem so challenging and restrictive, and this is so because we live in a world where at every turn there is the temptation to sin. But like Peter, who could do what seemed like the impossible when he walked on water only by keeping his eyes fixed on Jesus (Matthew 15: 29-30), we too can follow the Lord to our heavenly home. So, let us follow the “signs.” The road to life is the right road to be on! You are indeed a good mother in wanting to teach your children to love God.
© Copyright 2004 Grace D. MacKinnon
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