Love Dare Day Eight: Love is Not Jealous

Editor’s note: The author explains her family’s Lenten commitment to take the Love Dare here . Regular updates will be posted all through Lent. Click here to catch up on previous posts.]

Be a cheerleader for your family member today!

“Love is as strong as death, its jealousy unyielding as the grave. It burns like blazing fire" Song of Solomon 8:6.

Today’s dare should have been easy… but it wasn’t. We challenged each other to encourage the other family members. We should have been able to find ample opportunity to do this. I think part of our struggle is that the novelty of the dare is starting to wear off. We aren’t embracing the idea as readily as we did at the beginning.

I have seen the kids work on this aspect in the past few days (since day eight). I guess now the real challenge of sticking to the dare starts.

Lord, renew our enthusiasm for the dare and for our family. Help us look for opportunities to love and encourage each other.

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  • Doris Rodriguez

    TODAY’S DARE: Determine to become your spouse’s biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday’s list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.

    How hard was it to destroy the list? I could not bring myself to destroy it. It is still on the computer, not because I want to re-visit it … but mainly because I want to remember how to pray for him.

    What are some positive experiences that you can celebrate in the life of your mate? I can celebrate his golf scores and his accomplishments at work and home. I can admire his popularity with his children and encourage it. Ricky is an incredible provider for his family and he will sacrifice a lot to make us all happy. I truly believe one of his greatest joys is making sure we are all okay.

    How can you encourage him toward future successes? I can encourage him toward future successes by staying positive and uplifting, and by opening my eyes to all of the positive and wonderful things he does on a daily basis. I often don’t appreciate the “little” things, and those are the ones he is best at.

  • Doris Rodriguez

    TODAY’S DARE: Think of a specific way you’d like to greet your spouse today. Greet him/her with a smile and with enthusiasm then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.

    FROM DORIS: I do pretty well in this area most of the time because I genuinely AM glad to see Ricky or hear from him, especially when things are going great between us. If I’m upset with him for one reason or another, however, my greeting can be a little less than loving and I usually make sure he knows it.

    My first response to today’s dare was to take note of how we actually greet one another on a normal day-to-day basis and then adjust it accordingly throughout the day. This was actually hard to do because my “greeting” was so pre-colored by today’s dare that I couldn’t be as discerning as I had hoped for. But still, I am sure my husband was appreciative of my more “uplifting” greetings anyway. (smile)