Another Word on “Her Ladyship”

crownAnyone that knows me knows that I am not big on labels or titles. I often cut out the labels in my clothes because they irritate my skin. I do not insist on my daughter’s friends referring to me as “Ms. Pereira” and do not consider it a sign of disrespect if my nephews or nieces call me Marisa because they hear others refer to me by that name. Respect after all, is not really affiliated with a name or a title.

This lack of respect for a title allows me the freedom to treat EVERYONE with respect and courtesy whether they are “president” or “pauper.”  So rest assured that “Her Ladyship” does not refer to me! I do believe, however, that “ladyship” is a “goal” we can aspire toward – we are all, after all, works in progress.

My hope is that this forum will aid us in our journey as we evaluate, discuss and debate the everyday cultural and spiritual influences on our dress, decorum and dialogue.  I look forward to hearing your thoughts and questions on topics that help us stretch and grow toward being all that we can be. I hope that we get the perspective of some shining “knights” as well – or those who aspire to “knighthood”!

Marisa Pereira


Marisa Pereira is a mother, fashion designer, currently runs a Design and Image Consulting business in Atlanta, GA, is a freelance writer and volunteers at her church and in the community. She holds a BA in Fashion Design and a BA in French with a minor in Psychology and has worked in the Fashion Industry for over twenty years. Frustrated at her inability to find appropriate church clothes for her 14 year old daughter, she heeded God’s call, and created the stylish but modest, Michaela-Noel clothing collection, now available on-line. Having lived in multiple countries, she is acutely aware of the emphasis cultures place on visual appeal. She analyzes the importance of presenting the best image of ourselves and passionately insists that it starts within. She regularly addresses adult and youth audiences – encouraging and teaching them to make a memorable first impact but more importantly - to create a lasting impression. Her websites are: and

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  • Marisa,
    I just checked out the clothing line’s website, and WOW!  I particularly love the dresses- the two with the flower appliques are my favorite.  As the mother of a pre-teen, I’m excited to know that modest, stylish options are popping up all over!

  • Thank you for the vote of confidence Cari. Help spread the word – “Like” Michaela-Noel on facebook if you get a chance! Blessings.

  • Nancy Cusimano

    Hi Marisa,
    I really enjoy reading about what your up to and what’s coming up next.  Your still this amazing women I met years ago while working together and I always knew God had a calling for you.  I’m excited about your writing, your clothing line and continued success.   You asked for some ideas and here are some I think would be ideal.  In today’s world our youth don’t really have a place to call their own. They struggle with who they are, what parents, teachers, and even what friends expect of them.  My goal for you is to write something about the challenges our youth have today and how they can overcome those issues and concerns.  You have a teenage daughter yourself so what does she find that her friends often talk about?  Good luck!

  • FrJosephPeek

    To some degree true, and yet.  The woman, for that is what she is, has the choice of wearing the mantel placed on her shoulders to become a lady or not.  The minimmal respect is rendered to her, not of her own accord, but in that God created her.  The second level of respect is that she has been called into union with God, called to be a Lady, also not of her merit.  The fullness of ladyship, and therefore respect, is that she responds and lives her life as a Lady. The title, as is all athourity, is given by God, and is to be respected despite the manner in which the bearer lives it or not.
      For example, my title ‘Father’, denotes the authority God has given me, and yet is also the responsibility for which I will be judged by God.  The faithful are called, by the Ten Commandments, to honor me becuase of my God-given title, which bespeaks who I am, whether I am a saint or not.  I am called to respect and serve  God’s faithful, whether they recieve me as His envoy or not.
       Being imperfect we grow into who God has called us to be, and are hopefully humbled by the same.  It used to be protocol to kiss the Bishop’s ring, as a respect for his ‘office’.  this has fallen by the wayside as it was seen as belittling to the faithful.  Yet, it also removed humiliating effect it had upon a righteous bishop who rightly saw in the faithful’s act an honoring of God in him when he was so unworthy of their honor.
       We who lead and are responsible for the formation of others must be careful that in our desire to admit our inadequacies we remove the simple physical acts which at their core are, not so much putting us up on a pedastal, as a temporal act of those we serve in thanking God for his presence. athough imperect, among them.
       Therefore, Mom, Ms. Pereira, Aunt Marisa,  let those whom you serve humble you with your ‘titles’, that they may fulfill the Fourth Commandment and be given ‘long lives’ and that you may have a constant reminder to the duties to which you are called, inadequate and yet blessed in grace.
      With all due respect to your Ladyship,

  • Hmmm Fr Joe… thanks for taking the time to opine and explain – after all that, I still struggle with the whole topic of titles. I would rather someone call me “Marisa” and respect me than someone call me a fancy title and disrespect me… At the end of the day, I believe it’s not the word “Mummy” that makes me a mother or even the fact that I have a child; but how I live out that role.