Distressed: American Sensibility

I'll be 45 this Thursday and it's official: I have turned into my father.

The world makes less sense to me every day. My fellow man puzzles me more every day.

I cite exhibit A: crappy stone walls. I know a woman who paid $10,000 to have a small stone retaining wall built along her driveway.

Now I used to be a stonemason — I rebuilt close to 200 such walls during my high school and college years — and I was shocked to learn that hers was a new wall. It was buckling and full of gaps. Not one stone was properly cut or faced.

It's the latest craze, she told me — walls that have an old, authentic look. This is because people suddenly want the outside of their homes to look as "distressed" as the inside.

"Distressed furniture" is the latest trend in interior design. People are buying brand-new tables and dressers, bringing them into their garages, kicking and scratching them, then covering them in a lumpy, flaky paint.

I called my sister, an interior designer, to learn more about this peculiar trend. She said people want the antique look, but because real antiques are hard to come by, the next best thing is to buy something new and make it look scuffed and tired and worn.

This causes my father to rise up in me as I say, "What the …"

But nothing is more puzzling than our next item of distress: distressed jeans. That's right, there is actually a product the fashionistas refer to as "distressed jeans." These are jeans with tears and gaping holes that, according to the New York Times, sell for upwards of $600 a pair.

 Even in Pittsburgh, land of common-sense people, a lousy pair of trendy jeans runs upwards of $200. I talked with the owner of an upscale jeans store and she told me the jeans with holes in them aren't as popular as the ones with paint splattered all over them.

"Jeans splattered with paint?"

"Yes, they're all the rage."

"But they have paint on them!"


Just as I was ready to concede that the American experiment is spent and all will soon be lost, she told me about another jeans trend: dirt-washed jeans. That's right, the jean manufacturer washes them in dirt. They have pebbles and clumps of clay in the pockets. And Americans, many of them educated and from good homes, willingly exchange their hard-earned dough for them.

The dirt-washed jeans are almost as popular as the grease-smeared jeans, she continued (and I'm not making this up). The jean manufacturers actually smear grease all over the jeans, so that people who buy them can be as fashionable as the guy in the pit at the Jiffy Lube.

I asked the jeans-shop owner to help me understand why people are buying such products. She said that manufacturers are always trying to be hip. When something hits — when the trendy crowd just has to have it — the manufacturer can charge huge markups.

Well, I understand that, I told her. But why? Why are people dumb enough to buy these things? Why are Americans spending so much money for items that sensible Americans used to donate to Goodwill or toss in the garbage?

She had no answer. Let me take a stab at it.

As we work exhausting hours in gray cubicles doing bland service work — as we move into cookie-cutter houses in the thick of suburban sprawl — and as fewer of us know any sense of craftsmanship or what it is like to sweat or work with our hands, we long for anything authentic — even if it's fake.

But what do I know. At 45, I have effectively become my father. Puzzled as I am by the latest trends, my thoughts have shifted to more practical matters.

Such as finding a couple of suckers willing to pay me 200 bucks for my greasy, paint-stained jeans.

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  • Guest


    It's just amazing how freaking STUPID we've become as a society.  Money mouth

    I'm amazed when I talk to some people I know and how easily they fall into this same stupid line of thinking.  The absolutely crazy part of it is that they look at me like I'm the idiot.


  • Guest

    A fool and his (or her) money are soon parted.


    I work too hard to fritter away my money on foolishness.  Whatever I spend my money on better last me the next 5 years, except perhaps a good pair of working shoes, which may only last 6 months.  How bored do you have to be with your life that you would spend $600 on a pair of dirty jeans?  No wonder Jesus is a Shepherd, we truly are a bunch of sheep.  Unfortunately, not too endowed in the brain-pan sheep.

  • Guest

    virtual reality, virtual jeans,


    The exterior is an expression of the interior.

    people spend so much time 'play acting' that they no longer want to be who they are.

    Many those with money for leisure  are the type who's parents spend little time with them.  Look for ways to rebell against thier parents … they want deperately to be noticed and loved by those who ignore them all thier lives.


     consider the effects of the two income home.  Mama leaves baby to be watched by someone who just isn't mama for 9 to 10 hours a day from the time they are 3 months old and on.  someone who doesn't have the authority to properly teach discipline even if they wanted too.


    I have known more the a few rich kids who would give up all their money

    for a week of quality time spent with their parents.   They are common in

    the 'goth' sub culture.  Their parents really don't care what they do so long as they don't have to deal with it.  


    After all,we should only have children now when we 'want' them and why should we have more then 'cramp our style'.



  • Guest

    Stupid is as Stupid does?