Love in the Mailbox

Tim Drake

by Tim Drake on March 8, 2001 · 0 comments


Using skills I had learned as a teenage autograph collecting enthusiast, I went to the college library in search of addresses for 21 of Mary's favorite personalities.

I wrote to each, explaining how I wanted to give Mary a distinct birthday gift — one she would never forget. As a token of my love for her, I asked each celebrity to explain what “love” meant to them. Sure enough, the responses came.

Holding a black and white photograph of Jimmy Stewart with the words “Have a Wonderful Life Mary!” inscribed across it, I was reminded of my initial excitement at receiving my very first autograph and how it inspired me to keep collecting.

As a 13-year-old I had come home from school one day to discover a small color postcard in the black, aluminum mailbox at the end of our driveway. It was tucked between the Sears bill and the familiar manila Publishers Clearinghouse Sweepstakes envelope. There on the postcard was a picture of George Burns, looking very much like a chimpanzee, holding a fat cigar.

“To Tim – Best – George Burns” was written across his body in blue felt-tip. Typed on the back of the postcard was the message, “Sorry so late kid.” Because it was my first autograph, it became my favorite.

Like most teenage boys, I had little success with countless other hobbies. A Gerber's jar full of not-so-old coins rested in my top dresser drawer alongside my socks. In white envelopes shoved alongside the set of World Book Encyclopedias sat assorted canceled stamps. In a cardboard box underneath my bed lay several dozen Spiderman comic books. Autograph collecting, unlike the other hobbies, had stuck.

Once a week I rode my bike into town to glean addresses from various autograph collectors' “bibles.” A sizable portion of my allowance went to pay for stamps. I cranked the letters out in stack of 10 at a time on my parents' old blue IBM Selectric. Surely the postman must have thought it strange reading letters addressed to heads of state, famous authors and movie stars. He must have been even more surprised to see these same folks write back.

Only my slowness in typing prevented Hollywood from being deluged. I imagined celebrities gathered at Hollywood parties. Sipping a whiskey sour, Tom Selleck turns to Raquel Welch and says, “You wouldn't believe this letter I got last week! A teenager from Minnesota wrote me the kindest fan letter I've ever received!”

“You're kidding?” responds Raquel. “I bet that's the same kid who wrote me last week. He said he had seen each one of my movies a dozen times.”

Overhearing the conversation, Sylvester Stallone approaches. “You're not talking about Tim Drake? He wrote me months ago. His letter was so sincere that I sent him a dozen signed photographs for him and his friends,” says Sly.

The time I put into the letters proved to be well worth it. I couldn't wait to get home from school to check the mail each day. Letters and photographs began to trickle in. Brooke Shields mailed a postcard with the inscription, “Sorry I can't write, but Best Wishes! Love, Brooke Shields XX.” One can imagine the hormones that postcard activated in a 13-year-old body.

Louis L'Amour, one of my favorite authors as a teenager, sent a typed response complete with errors, telling me how his great grandfather had been killed in the Minnesota Little Crow Massacre.

Clint Eastwood, as the nameless Western stranger, sent a glossy black and white profile. Dr. Jonas Salk explained that cancer would one day become “controllable.” George Lucas, complete with C-3PO and Ewoks, signed “May the Force be With You.” Paul Newman, Jane Fonda, Garrison Keillor, Jackie Gleason, and many others sent their best wishes inscribed alongside their faces. I could hardly believe it. This was history!



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<p><strong><br /></strong><br />I gained notoriety among family and friends by always asking, “Would you like to see my autograph collection?” My pride in showing the collection to anyone willing to see it was certainly a source of embarrassment to my parents. </p>
<p>Many a non-believer scoffed. “Those aren't real. Those people have secretaries and machines to sign their names!” Others accused me of forgery, claiming, “You probably just order the 8 X 10 glossies and sign them yourself!” Undaunted, I collected on….</p>
<p>Back at college the letters and photographs for Mary continued to flow in. Tim Conway quoted Kahlil Gibran. “In the sweetness of friendship, let there be laughter and the sharing of simple pleasures; for in the dew of little things, the heart finds its morning and is refreshed,” Conway wrote.</p>
<p>Loretta Swit, of M*A*S*H mailed back my letter and suggested I give that to Mary as a token of my love. She wrote, “You are well-loved and if you've got that, you've got it all!”</p>
<p>Initially my parents thought the idea cute. However, as the responses continued to come in, they started to treat the gift as if it were a 10-karat diamond engagement ring.</p>
<p>“Just how much do you love this woman?” they asked. “What happens to the autographs if you break up? Maybe you should keep them and buy her a nice necklace,” they suggested.</p>
<p>Many of the celebrities who responded were people I had written to years earlier without a reply. Katharine Hepburn, and Jimmy and Rosalyn Carter sent letters. Resisting my own temptations and my parents' urgings to keep them for myself, I collected on.</p>
<p>Leo Buscaglia, the “Doctor of Love,” who disliked defining love, sent a long-distance hug and said that “love is knowing you exist.” </p>
<p>Mother Teresa wrote, “Keep the joy of loving God in your heart and share this joy with all you meet, especially those you love.”</p>
<p>Alan Alda, Dick Van Dyke, and Bob Hope did not have time to write letters, but did send their photographs, their signatures and their birthday greetings. In addition, I included letters from Mary's sister, myself, and her best friend.</p>
<p>On November 30th, 1987 Mary opened the book, which I had entitled “Reflections on Love.” She sat in amazement, not saying a word, as she read through each letter. She kept asking, “I can't believe it. Are these real?” She loved it so much she carried it around to show her friends. Furthermore, as an unforeseen benefit, the book also helped my image with her family.</p>
<p>As farmers, they held some preconceived notions about “city boys.” After seeing the gift they figured that any guy who would do that for their daughter had to be at least as “nice” as any local guy they hoped Mary would date.</p>
<p>In July, 1989, we were married. Since her 21st birthday, I have added an autograph each year as a special birthday gift. The celebrity typically has some significance to the two of us from the preceding year. Phil Collins' “A Groovy Kind of Love” was the first dance song at our wedding twelve years ago, so his autograph appeared one year. </p>
<p>After seeing Billy Joel in concert another year, it was only natural that she should have his autograph. Enjoying Jack Lemmon's performance in the movie “Dad,” that one also showed up. After seeing “Field of Dreams” together, Kevin Costner also joined the group.</p>
<p>When Mary became a sign language interpreter, I. King Jordan, president of Gallaudet University, which serves deaf students, sent a letter. When we were expecting our first child, Drs. Benjamin Spock and T. Berry Brazelton sent their autographs. </p>
<p>People often ask what the book is worth. While I am uncertain of its value, the book is bound to increase in value as Mary gets older. Yet the sentimental value is immeasurable. I doubt that Mary would ever part with any of the signatures. Sometimes I wonder if I would part with any of mine. </p>
<p>Ironically, the signature she values most is worth the least. Every once in a while, as she sits on the couch nostalgically paging through the book, I'll ask, “Which one is your favorite?”</p>
<p>With a smile she responds, “Yours.”</p>
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Tim Drake

By Tim Drake

Tim Drake is an award-winning journalist, the author of six books on religion and culture, and a former radio host. Widely published, and a long-time contributor to the National Catholic Register, he serves as Senior Editor/Director of News Operations for the Cardinal Newman Society.