Keep Dating Your Wife: 25 Ways to Show Your Wife You Love Her

In college, I got to know an elderly couple who took a real liking to me, and they would often have me over to their house and take me out to dinner. While they were nothing but kind to me, their relationship with each other was incredibly hostile. Every conversation would turn into an angry shouting match, and they could barely relate to one another without harsh words or bitter criticisms.

While I don’t know this couple’s history or how they came to interact this way, the relationship they had is sadly all too common. Marriages are crumbling, and the divorce rate is creeping above 50%. And while the Church has always defended the indissolubility of marriage, it is a tragic reality that Catholics are civilly divorcing at essentially the same rate as everyone else.

The causes of this breakdown of marriage are many, but really, the solution is simple. We who are called to the vocation of marriage must love our wives. Let’s face it, we ultimately can’t change anyone’s marriage but our own. In the face of marital collapse on a massive scale, our Catholic marriages must be a prophetic witness of joyful life, fidelity, and love.

So with that said, here are 25 ways to tell your wife you love her. There are hundreds more!

  1. Listen to her and care about what she has to say
  2. Show her physical, non-sexual affection
  3. Surprise her with flowers
  4. Take her out to dinner (without the kids)
  5. Buy her a book she’s been wanting
  6. Write her a love note
  7. Wash the dishes
  8. Check something off your honey-do list
  9. If you have babies, change a diaper
  10. Let her go out with her girlfriends sans kids
  11. Open the door for her
  12. Pray with her and for her
  13. Apologize to her when you sin
  14. Forgive her when she sins…never hold a grudge
  15. Ask her advice
  16. Pay attention to her pet peeves and avoid them
  17. Take her shopping
  18. Fast for her
  19. Understand and comfort her fears even if you don’t share them
  20. Talk to her about life
  21. Compliment her specifically
  22. Kiss her in public and in front of the kids
  23. Hold her hand
  24. Give up something you want to do to do something she wants to do
  25. Don’t criticize or complain…praise

In short, keep dating your wife.

Once upon a time, your chief preoccupation was winning your wife’s heart and securing her affection. Remember? Yet, many men stop doing this the minute they say “I do.” This shouldn’t be. Your mission as a Catholic husband is to become a life-long student of your wife. Study to understand her hopes and dreams, her fears and practical concerns. What does she love? What does she hate? What makes her happy? What’s her love language? Learn what delights her heart and then do it.

Men marriage is a sacrament, just like confession or the Eucharist. A good marriage can literally give us spiritual life and grace. Isn’t that amazing? And yet despite this fact, many of us treat our spouse casually and irreverently, as a nuisance, or worse, as an enemy. How sad.

The saints tell us that we receive more from the sacraments if we receive them well. The more prepared our hearts are, the more graces we receive. Why then, do we who are called to the sacrament of Matrimony so often neglect our marriages and ignore our spouses? Your wife is a sacramental sign to you. Treat her like one.

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Sam Guzman is an author and editor of The Catholic Gentleman whose work has appeared in several publications. He resides in Wisconsin with his wife and two small boys where he is also the Communications Director for Pro-Life Wisconsin.

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  • RandyS

    Agree 100%! All of these concrete examples can be boiled down to “Love your wife!”

    I received some great advice 29 years ago when my wife and I attended our Engaged Encounter Retreat (pre-marriage couples retreat). That is the relationship between you and your spouse must come first…ahead of your families and even your children!

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