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For Lent: Redefine True Womanhood

by Jane Sloan on February 22, 2012 · 10 comments

Woman from Baroque PeriodForget giving up sweets with the subtle hope of losing the last couple pounds [guilty].  This Lent, explore what it means to be of the dust of Eve.

The following are some creative takes on how to approach the three penitential practices – prayer, fasting and almsgiving – in order to cultivate a sense of true womanhood.  Readers, please include any other ideas in the ‘comments’ section!  God bless your Lenten journey.

Pray:

  • Pray the rosary.  Yes, the whole thing!
  • Reflect on women’s stories in Scripture:
    [Books of Judith, Esther, Ruth, Hannah (1 Samuel 1:1-24), Sarah’s Laugh (Genesis 18:1-15), Psalm 45, Psalm 139, The Godly Woman (Proverbs 31), The Woman at the Well (John 4:1-42), The Woman with the Hemorrhage and Jairus’ Daughter (Mark 5:21-43), Marian stories of the Gospels]
  • Rally the troops – include Mass in your weekend activities with friends, or alter your coffee shop conversation to include spirituality.
  • Contemplate the unique aspects of womanhood, and of your femininity, and pray about ways to put these into action.
  • Pray for your vocation – your future spouse or religious order.
  • Read Mulieribus Dignitatem, On the Dignity and Vocation of Women (http://www.vatican.va/holy_father/john_paul_ii/apost_letters/documents/hf_jp-ii_apl_15081988_mulieris-dignitatem_en.html)

Fast:

  • Replace Katy Perry with the music of Catholic artist Danielle Rose. http://www.daniellerose.com/.  Fast from media and entertainment sources that mar the dignity of women, or that contribute to a woman’s negative body image.
  • Replace time spent reading Vogue or watching Grey’s Anatomy with time browsing Catholic women’s websites such as altcatholicah.com and thenewfeminism.net.
  • Replace time shopping with time making handmade gifts and cards for friends and relatives, to show you care.
  • Fast from negative self-talk about your value or appearance.
  • Dress modestly.
  • Fast from gossip.
  • Close the chatterbox – take time to listen in your relationships.
  • Fast from romanticizing married life or religious life, or other peoples’ lives in general.  Renew living joyfully; your life is a great romance with the Lord!

Give Alms:

  • Give some of your free time to busy married friends, especially those with children.  Go out of your way to visit, babysit, bring over a meal, help around the house, etc.
  • Clean out your closet – donate clothes, shoes and accessories to a local women’s shelter.  To quote a CFR friend, “Poor people like nice clothes, too.”
  • Explore opportunities to enact the Corporal Works of Mercy. (http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/10198d.htm)
  • Donate time and money to local organizations that support women in need and women’s issues.
  • Become an active voice in women’s issues in politics.  http://www.catholicvote.org/index.php
  • Cultivate awareness of women’s issues around the world.  Respond to those needs that especially compel you.

 

  • Stephanie Loomis

    I especially like the idea of fasting from negative self talk…so important in our current culture!

  • Blair Mancini

    I think finding a suitable replacement for Katy Perry music should be a lifelong calling for all humans.

  • http://religish.blogspot.com/ Lisa

    This is my first year of practicing Lent in any way, so I went with the obvious and gave up chocolate, but I really love the idea of giving up negative self talk.  I might do both.

  • Craftynester

    And in giving of your time or treasure to woman’s groups, be very careful that they are not affiliated with any pro-abortion group. For example, Susan G. Komen gives funds to Planned Parenthood.

  • Jane

    Lisa, so glad to hear you are starting a Lenten practice.  (I’m giving up chocolate too!)  Best of luck and all graces to you this Lent.

  • Jane

    I agree Stephanie, and very difficult to be vigilant about in my experience.  Once I decided to give up self-deprecating comments and give compliments, but being aware of them was half the battle.

  • Jane

    Good point.  A little research goes a long way.

    I like the idea of donating to local Catholic women’s organizations, shelters, and crisis pregnancy centers.  That way you know the money is going straight into your community.

  • snipercatcher

    Thank you, Jane, but why just women’s organizations and married people? Shouldn’t it be the person/organization who needs you most? Or maybe the person who drives you crazy but really needs help?

  • Jane

    Hi Snipercatcher,

    I suppose I suggested these because they relate to the Lenten practice of meditating on true womanhood.

    But you bring up a good point – at times God presents us spontaneously with people and groups that really need us, and it’s up to us to cultivate the kind of availability (time-wise and attitude-wise) that allows us to see these gifts.  Not all our giving can be premeditated.

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