Contraception: the Love Killer



Far too many Catholics think of the Church in terms of laxity or strictness, when in fact to do so is to miss the whole point. Morality is the fruit of love, love of Christ, who said, "If you love me you will keep my commandments" (Cf. John 14:15). This was not a threat or some divine arm-twisting, but a statement of fact. Religious obedience is an act of great spiritual maturity and love. It is not that we love Him but that He first loved us (Cf. 1 John 4:19). He is our Bridegroom.

I would be worried about any engaged couple that was caught up in worry about fidelity instead of being so dizzily — or sanely — in love that infidelity was unthinkable. In theological terms we speak of fear of the Lord as a virtue, which of course it is, but it is not a craven timorousness, nor is it simply "awe," as some proposed in the 60s and 70s to soften the blow of the word "fear."

Proper fear of the Lord is the horror one feels at the thought of hurting, harming or even simply displeasing our beloved, be it a human love or God. This is called filial fear. Another kind of fear is called "servile fear" based more in fear of getting caught or being punished. While this is not altogether a bad thing, filial fear is superior as it speaks of a higher love.

 Little girls do not grow up dreaming of hopping from bed to bed and contraception.  They dream of a man who will sweep them off their feet and love them forever, and of having his many children. A cynicism born of the sexual revolution has brought emptiness to the hearts, wombs and lives of far too many modern women. This emptiness and pain can be avoided or redeemed and healed by the love of Christ and adherence to His teachings. The Catholic Church believes in such dreams because God wrote them on the human heart. And there are men who long for such a woman to love and cherish.

Real lovers want to give without reserve in God's own superabundance creating more hearts and lives to love. Contraception is like kissing through a screen door and real love cannot tolerate obstacles. Contraception breeds selfishness and separation that drives a wedge between husband and wife that kills love. Real lovers want their love to explode into the posterity of future generations for all eternity. This is the kind of passion and fulfillment God wants for His children. Contraception limits what should be boundless. It spits in the face of this glorious passion and love's true abandon; and that is why it is a sin. It seeks to "tame" love, thus killing it. The Catholic Church is the last bastion on earth of true romance. The modern world has suffocated love and made sex a thing of deadness.

I am thinking of all this because of the recent confrontation between Father Thomas Euteneuer and conservative talk show host Sean Hannity over Hannity's public dissent on contraception. As Providence would have it, just days before this confrontation I was visiting with Father Euteneuer at the Headquarters of Human Life International discussing various ways to raise the profile of HLI in order to help the mission. Imagine my surprise a few days later when I looked up from my dinner at home to see the face of my host on a "coming up" announcement on Fox's Hannity & Colmes program.

That confrontation is now history and, in my view, it is a milestone, a breakthrough for the pro-life movement because the evil of contraception is an essential element of the pro-life message. Contraception is the very core of the Culture of Death. With out "The Pill" in the early 60s there would have been no Roe v. Wade in the early 70s.

Until now it has been nearly impossible to break through the wall of silence the media has in place regarding an intelligent presentation of the Catholic position on birth control and the scandal that so many Catholics reject that teaching. Father Euteneuer, by the Grace of God, unexpectedly broke through that barrier.

What is shocking is that as a leader in American conservatism, Sean Hannity seems to have been blissfully unaware that there is a significant movement in the Catholic Church of people who refer to themselves as "orthodox" Catholics, meaning they accept Church teachings — all of them — not out "blind obedience" as is often charged, but out of love, conviction and principle. Not to mention coming to see the truth of them and agreeing with them through hard life's experience. Many of these Catholics also refer to themselves, somewhat imprecisely, as "conservative Catholics" mistakenly using the terms "orthodox" and "conservative" interchangeably.

So it was a shocker to hear Sean, whom many of these Catholics may have seen as a champion, behaving in such a hostile way towards a priest presenting Magisterial Church teaching. It was also a shock to hear a professional debater stoop to the red herrings and other tactics Hannity resorted to in attacking the priest, barely letting him speak.

Further, orthodox Catholics had reason to think of Sean as "one of them" judging from this comment in an article by William F. Buckley:

Sean Hannity said that he was himself Catholic and that he attends a church which on Sundays is standing room only. He attributes this in part to God, but mostly to his pastor, who, says Hannity, is rigorous in his defense of Christian doctrines, forswearing temptations to truckle to modernism ("Churchbound?" December
19, 2003, National Review Online).

I wonder what Sean's pastor is thinking now. Has he been rigorous in his defense of Humanae Vitae? If so, where was Sean?

But for all this, this is not about Sean Hannity. It is about the crisis of the Church in the West. It is a crisis that this current generation of affluent, educated Catholics can smugly think they "know better" than 2000 years of pastoral wisdom, Divine Revelation and the "expertise in humanity" of the Church of which the Second Vatican Council spoke. (Cf. Pope Paul VI- Address to the United Nations, 5 October 1965)

This is a crisis the Church Herself must answer for one day before the Lord.

The point is not to pick on Sean, who is a good man, albeit mistaken about his faith, but this incident throws into relief the problem of so many Catholics who share his view. The question for Sean and other Catholics, who are under the impression that this teaching is optional, is: If your moral compass is not calibrated to the True North of the Magisterium, what is it set to? From whom do you take direction? What is the authority you have set above that of the Church's divinely established teaching authority? "Conventional wisdom?" A "climate of opinion?" Or is it a smug attitude of what C.S. Lewis called "chronological snobbery" following the naïve assumption that the Church is "behind the times" on these questions and needs to catch up with the "modern world?" If nothing else, any conservative ought to recognize that the "modern world" is a train wreck, due to what Pope Paul VI called "a general lowering of morality" that would ensue if contraception became widespread (Humanae Vitae, No. 17).

In fact, the Church does not need to get into the modern world; the modern world needs to get into the Church if there is to be any true human progress rather than the decline and degradation we have witnessed over the last 40 years.

But it gets worse. Nothing could have vindicated Father Euteneuer's questioning of the depth of Sean's faith more than remarks he reportedly made on his radio show:

If that makes me unwanted in the Catholic Church, then I'll have to just call my buddy Jerry Falwell, and Thomas Road Baptist Church, here I come. I will accept that taking this position publicly could result in me being thrown out of the Church. If that's the case and they don't want me, that's fine.

The level of wrong-headedness this statement demonstrates, which is an attitude found in so many modern Catholics, is enough to make one hang one's head.

No one is "unwanted" in the Catholic Church but this is a tiresome charge often made by those caught up in the ideologies of homosexual activism, feminism, and others who don't wish to recognize that being Catholic means that we at least try to be in conformity to Christ. It is the first lesson of Philosophy 101 that something cannot be and not be at the same time: the law of non-contradiction. Active homosexuality and its promotion, abortion advocacy and contraception all contradict the teachings of Christ as revealed to us by the Holy Spirit mediated through the Pope and Magisterium which Christ promised would be free from error in matters of faith and morals. One cannot be a Pagan and a Catholic simultaneously.

Furthermore, excommunication is not a statement that one is "unwanted" by the Church. On the contrary, it is an act of the Church's pastoral love to warn a soul that he has strayed from the truth and is in deep water and needs to rethink some things. Being admitted to Communion means that one is in communion with the Church, not subscribing to some other gospel.

Whatever Sean studied in the seminary it clearly wasn't ecclesiology or sacramental theology if he could so glibly abandon the Eucharist by going to a Protestant church over this matter. Indeed where does he take his cues? With all due respect to Protestants, Catholics do not "church hop" until they find one that suits them. A Catholic may seek out a Catholic parish they prefer, but no church not in communion with the Chair of Peter — the Pope — fulfills a Catholic's Sunday obligation (with emergency exceptions for some Eastern Orthodox — capital "O" — churches). No Protestant church believes what the Catholic Church believes about the Eucharist. Does Sean believe in transubstantiation and the Real Presence? If so, is he prepared to walk away from the actual Body and Blood of Jesus Christ over this? It is a chilling thought for any believing Catholic to contemplate.

Why chilling? Consider the following quote from the Second Vatican Council: "Hence they could not be saved who, knowing that the Catholic Church was founded as necessary by God through Christ, would refuse either to enter it, or to remain in it" (Lumen Gentium, No. 14).

The question is, as a Catholic, is Sean a believer? Does he believe what the Church teaches about the Papacy, that Jesus established it when he told Peter "I call you Peter and upon this Rock I will build my Church. What you bind on earth is bound in Heaven" (Cf. Matt. 18:18)? Or when He promised the Apostles, "I will send you the Holy Spirit to guide you into all truth" (Cf. John 16:13-15) and "He who hears you hears me" (Luke 10:16)?

Obviously, Protestants don't interpret these verses as the founding of the Papacy and Magisterium, but does Sean? As a "seminary trained" "devout Catholic?" Being a devout Catholic involves a willingness to be taught by the Church, a willingness to change when mistaken, and above all, a willingness to repent. Contraception is a serious sin and to claim to be Catholic and publicly declare otherwise is to give serious scandal.

Many present day conservatives were once liberal and underwent a "conversion" to conservatism because they saw the error of liberalism's inherent relativism, which rejects objective truth. It is no accident that there is an alliance among believing Christians (derisively referred to as the "Religious Right.") My "conversion" to political conservatism followed upon a religious conversion, which convinced me of the Truth of the Catholic Faith in which I was raised. In the Hannity/Euteneuer confrontation Sean showed a serious inconsistency in the philosophy in which he makes his living, showing himself, to the dismay of his Catholic fans, to be politically conservative but a liberal — a dissident — Catholic.

I'm a Fox News junkie. I watch Hannity and Colmes nearly every night. When I see Sean on TV I see him as a friend. I agree with him and admire him on most things, but Sean, you're wrong on this one.

Father Euteneuer is not your enemy. He is not an ideologue but a good man and the kind of priest who genuinely cares for souls. Your soul. He has already proved that. He would be a great friend to you from whom you could learn much. He asked to speak with you in 2004, not to argue with you or embarrass you, but out of concern for you. Contraception does real damage and you owe it to yourself to hear him out, because you are a good man who would not wish to spread harm. True friends tell us the truth even when it hurts and it is a wise man that listens to such friends. These opportunities are all too rare in this life and I urge you to avail yourself of his friendship.

Comments

  • Guest

    It took me a long time to come to terms with Church teaching on contraception.  Now I see the direct connection between contraception and abortion (I used to think it was the other way around, that contraception prevented abortion).  The key is good catechesis, early and often.

  • Guest

    Good catechesis IS the key. It was sorely lacking in my youth, which is why I lapsed for 25 years. Almost as sad is that it was a Protestant, Josh McDowell, who convinced me of the historicity of the New Testament. Thank God for the online debating community I used to belong to, and the false attacks on the Church there. Defending the Church returned me to her. But for that, who knows what I might have strayed into?

  • Guest

    Excellent work John. 

    "[L]et us love not in word or speech but in deed and truth" (1 Jn 3:18).

  • Guest

    I remember a few years ago (it was during the conclave after John Paul the Great's death) I was in the gym and a commentator on the news(quite possibly Sean Hannity) made a comment that "He speaks for all American Catholics when he says that the Church should abandon her views on contraception".  I think I yelled at the TV (the rest of the treadmill patrons were quite confused and assumed I was yelling at SportsCenter). 

     

    I am a 27 year old single female who longs for the day when I can give myself freely to my future husband (whomever he may be).  The Church's teaching on contraception is so incredibly liberating, not restricting! 

     

    Thank you for this article, and for reminding me that I am not alone. 

     

    Kristan

  • Guest

    The day I read Humanae Vitae I had a perfect family, a boy and a girl two years apart, just exactly what the world was telling me would make me completely satisfied and content. I had just had an second IUD implanted two weeks before. I sat in tears of regret for a time, called my OB/Gyn and had the IUD removed immediately.

     This decision lead to our tribe growing in number 4 more times. I look to those children as my salvation from the world. They are a sign of my obedience to God and to his Holy Church. In return, He has allowed me to experience consolations beyond words; the grandchildren that would have never existed and the inlaws that never would have come into our lives. I am very selfish by nature, I am blessed by a God who has my best interest at heart.

  • Guest

    Excellent article! We’ve been married for 26 years, had two daughters, and used NFP since the first day of our marriage. Sean Hannity and his ilk don’t know WHAT they don’t know about the evil of contraception and, as importantly, the blessing of obedience to God’s Law. NFP has been SUCH a gift to our marriage, clearly God-ordained. In retrospect, I can see times and ways our marriage may have come apart, if we hadn’t had the faith and communication NFP requires. It is truly the manner God used to keep Himself as the third Person in our marriage. Claire and Arkanabar, as to catechesis, it seems to me that a lot of people will have to do some explaining about the content of their teaching to the souls for which they were responsible, when they come to meet the Lord face-to-face. Hang in there, Kristan. A marriage w/o contraception is worth waiting for, trust me! I wish God had given us more children, as He did Bambushka and her husband–indeed, their children are a testamony to their obedience. However, I hope people will realize that large families aren’t the only ones God has ordained for obedient couples.

  • Guest

    "as to catechesis, it seems to me that a lot of people will have to do some explaining about the content of their teaching to the souls for which they were responsible"

     But as thinking, growing Catholics, aren't we solely responsible for our own formation in the end? The gift of discernment has been invaluable when it comes to seeking the Truth. Years of formation in the Permanant Diaconate program have still left me scratching my head and sifting through the chafe to find the wheat in what the "leaders" of the church are trying to "teach". In the end it is up to me to seek and to find the Truth.

    St John Vianney, "Do not try to please everybody. Try to please God , the angels, and the saints. These are your public. If you are afraid of other people's opinion, you should not have become Christian."

  • Guest

    It seems impossible that any "devout" Catholic would even threaten to leave the place where Jesus is confected in the Eucharist, Body, Blood, Soul and Divinity, for a more "understanding" church.  Even if one's obstinance doesn't allow for more than bowing before Him, with arms folded in obedience, since what he publicly advocates does not allow him to be in communion, still that is where He is found.

    A lifetime of Lord's suppers in the Thomas Road Baptist church does not equal the Presence in a single Eucharist. A multiplicity of arguments, agreements and sermons does not equal one humble obedience. Sean, what are you thinking?
    PS. Sean, Your Mother doesn't want you to fight with your brothers.  You are supposed to listen to the ones who have been given His authority.  I can find no basis in Scripture or Tradition to suppose that Jesus would have embraced artificial contraception.
  • Guest

    bambushka,While we have free will and are responsible for our own souls, we also share in the responsibility for each other.Pope St. Felix III (6th Century) said it well: "Not to oppose error is to approve it; and not to defend truth is to suppress it. and, indeed, to neglect to confound evil men —  when we can do it — is no less a sin than to encourage them." We are our brothers’ keepers.

  • Guest

    As a Protestant convert to the Catholic faith, I am so thankful for having learned the beauty of this traditional Catholic (and Christian) teaching.  Being well-formed and obedient on this subject brings a lot of joy and has helped our family to grow in love for each other.  I hope that Catholics can share this great truth with the current culture, which so sorely needs it. 

    It is truly unfortunate that Father Jonathon on Fox News couldn't have given a response similar to the one above.

  • Guest

     "While we have free will and are responsible for our own souls, we also share in the responsibility for each other"All the more reason to keep searching and learning. We cannot give what we do not have. The last 40 years have been years filled with "bad" teaching. I mourn for the lack of depth many have in their faith.

    I knew more and had more faith by the third grade than most have in their 30's and 40' now. I cut my teeth on the Baltimore Catechism and chewed up the new Catechism. It is up to us as individuals to form our faith, less someone lead us astray.

    One of our daughters is bringing her friend into the church. She is very careful who she exposes her friend to as far as RCIA teachings go. Her table is stacked high with good orthodox writings. This is too important to leave to the whims of the unfaithful. 

    St John Vianney, "Do not try to please everybody. Try to please God , the angels, and the saints. These are your public. If you are afraid of other people's opinion, you should not have become Christian."

  • Guest

    I am so blessed to be Catholic.  It is just so beautiful the plan that GOD had through his church to give us his unconditional love for each and everyone of us.  To me we are all born Catholic, it is just up to us to search for the truth.  It is so sad how Satan just wants to tear the faith down and take many with him as he does this.  It also amazes me that Hannity and all other Catholics want to pretend they are Catholic when they try to justify and change the faith.  I am sorry to inform all those so called Catholics that the faith will never change to please you.  Think what you want to think, but you will answer for it if you do not wise up.  I love Father Euteneuer and all that he stands for in our Catholic faith.  What a powerful strength you have to change so manys hearts.  You were truly chosen by GOD.  I will continue to pray for Hannity and all others that they truly come home to the awesome Catholic faith.  May GOD bless all of us, and may we all continue to be guided through the Holy Spirit.  Blessed Mother may you continue your intercession for all the world.

  • Guest

    Bambushka, you wrote,

    "I am very selfish by nature, I am blessed by a God who has my best interest at heart."

    How that resonates with me.  I am convinced I was called to marriage and blessed with children so that I learn during this lifetime how to serve others instead of myself.  I can see clearly how each child has helped me become "less selfish" over the years.  But there's oh so much more work (on me!) to be done.  God isn't finished with me yet!

  • Guest

    I especially like the lines, "Contraception is like kissing through a screen door," and, "One cannot be a Pagan and a Catholic simultaneously."

    I'm sure I'll be using these gems.

  • Guest

    ipioch – AMEN!

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