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Cari Donaldson

Catholics Love A Good Birth Story

by Cari Donaldson on May 14, 2012 · 18 comments

Here I need to explain something.

When I first started writing my blog, it was done with the sole purpose of keeping grandparents, aunts, and uncles in touch with the kids as they grew up.  I have family all over the country, and I’m really really bad at making phone calls, so I thought that a weekly blog update or two would be a nice way to keep everyone connected.  But somewhere, somehow, along the way, the blog grew into something enjoyed by more than just relatives, and I’ve met amazing people from all over the world through it.  And all those people, many of whom have never met me or my family, prayed for me and the baby during the delivery.

I think it is a comment on the transcendent nature of God when I say that there were prayers coming from all parts of the globe during labor.  And I think it’s a comment on the power of prayer when I say that when I got the news of this possibly serious development, I was absolutely calm.  I knew God had us in the palm of His hand.  I floated on all those prayers from 6 cm., to 8 cm., to a shot of Nubain, to 9.5 cm and was I sure that it wasn’t time to push since the NICU pediatrician needed to be called in, to Ken telling our new nurse (awesome Lorraine’s shift had ended a few moments before and we were now stuck with a bad, possibly crazy new nurse) to just leave me alone I would let everyone know when it was time to push.

I floated on all those prayers and marveled that for the first time, I was able to observe each contraction as pressure, and not precisely pain.  I floated on all those prayers when I felt the first need to push, and the room swirled into carefully controlled action.  The prayers carried the baby down the birth canal in one push; they filled the room as the second push delivered the head.  The prayers were already ringing out in thanksgiving as all the fluid suctioned out of the baby’s nose and mouth came back clear.  And when that final push delivered the rest of the baby into the world, and I could hear Ken’s voice saying, “I’m no doctor, but I think it’s a girl,” my gasping Hail Mary joined all the prayers already with us.

A girl!  Our first girl in ten years.  Beautiful, healthy, wonderful 7 lb., 11 oz. Veronica Rosemary, who was born on St. Rose Venerini’s feast day.

But the prayers didn’t stop there.  They were already on the job for us when blood work revealed that Veronica and I had exchanged our incompatible blood during delivery, and she tested Coombs positive.  All those prayers whispered to her little body when her 24 hour bilirubin levels were still elevated.  And then, by the time she was retested, 18 hours later, she was fine.

So here we are, a week later (in 11 minutes, a week exactly!), now a family of eight.  I didn’t die.  The baby is fine.  Like my friend Hallie says, “A baby is born with a loaf of bread under each arm”, and the bread this one brought was spiritual bread, feeding that part of me that was starving for a reminder of the power of prayer.

 

 

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  • grace822

    curse you.

    I’ve never cried reading the internet — until now.

    fist shake. 

  • http://twitter.com/HouseUnseen Dwija Borobia

    I’m totally bawling, Donaldson.  Love you and love, love, love sweet little Bananica!

  • Francine

    What a beautiful story- it was worth waiting for!

  • JoAnna Wahlund

    I’m Rh- with an Rh+ husband (and 4 Rh+ kids, so far) and I’ve never heard of the Coombs test. Huh.

    Lovely story! I’m so glad you felt lifted up in prayer!

  • Lisa G.

    Wow Cari – love this story.  I had no idea there were so many scares but I am so glad everything is perfect :)  Congratulations again!!!!

  • http://www.4andcounting.blogspot.com nicole_asmanyasgiven

    Well, this was just wonderful. Funny and touching all at once. And if 6 kids in 10 years is pope-worthy then what is 6 kids in 8 years. ;) Thanks for sharing yours and Veronica’s story. She is beautiful.

  • http://www.clan-donaldson.com/ Cari

    The crazy thing is, both she and I are positive.  I’m O+, she’s B+.  It wasn’t a factor of Rh incompatibility, but the fact that O blood contains both A and B antigens (?), and so she was reacting to the A antigen found in my O blood.

    I don’t know.  It’s all verrrrry mysterious and fascinating.

  • http://www.clan-donaldson.com/ Cari

    Super Pope (complete with cape!)- worthy!  The only higher level is Apostle-worthy.

  • steph

    love. you. her. the story. the outcome your faith and our prayers provided! well done mama! 

  • karlab71

    So….Apostle-worthy must be……6 kids in 5 years or less? Hee hee

  • Laura

    antibodies, not antigens :) Beautiful story, congratulations on your GIRL!

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Debb-Butka-Carlson/517989127 Debb Butka Carlson

    *sigh* Again, you aren’t supposed to make me cry at work.  The few days before my C-sxn with Zach, I had the “day before delivery” fears of dying or impending doom (which were also made fun of, by the way).  I am so glad you felt the love and power of all the prayers and support for you and Veronica.  Very moving story, so glad you share your life with all of us out here in the never-never-land of the internet.  And I am so very proud of you and happy for you, my dear pseudo-cousin.  ;)

  • Colleen martin

    Amazing and beautiful…just like her (and you!). You have given me hope that there may be one more girl in our future :-)

  • chaco

    Feeling somewhat out of place as a male commenting on your story, I am humbled by all the responsibility a feminine Heart takes on (especially at a time such as this). I’ve come to believe that men may, for the most part, be more physically powerful, but I see women winning “Hands Down” in regards to emotional/ Spiritual fortitude. [ I've heard that studies reveal how women can endure the strain of divorce better than men. I've also heard that at the moment when gender is decided in the womb; something that connects right brain to left brain is destroyed if it becomes a male (now don't go using this to claim men are brain damaged). This would explain why women seem to be more adept at multi-tasking.] Don’t get me wrong; men are God’s creation as well – and God don’t make junk - I just like to highlight our complimentarity.  Your words on how technology can connect us all gives me much Hope as regards teachings about “A New Springtime”. SOoo happy for you & Hubby & clan. 

  • chaco

    All that said, it has been opined ; “Of course God made man 1st – one always makes a rough draft before the final masterpiece.

  • Ana Hahn

    Totally tearing up, such a  beautiful story, Cari and an even more beautiful baby!
    I was so glad to read that I am not the only one who has been a “hot mess” prior to delivery (although both times so far for me, patheticville) I hope I can summon some faith similar to yours this time around and not freak out :)

  • Nicole

    Congratulations! What a beautiful blessing for a beautiful family! I had a similar experience with a coombs positive baby. Very scary! We had to stay in the hospital for an extra day but our littlest one is fine too. Enjoy that sweet new baby smell and wrap yourself up in a baby cocoon!!!!

  • kim trouy

    She is beautiful!  You are so blessed!  Remind me to tell you that again in a few years when it gets really hard!  love you girl!