A Momma’s Boy

There’s something to be said about being a Momma’s boy when it comes to your son being the boy and Mary, the Blessed Virgin, being the Momma.  Which of us wouldn’t want our boys to be that kind of Momma’s boy? There is a special relationship between a mother and her son.  Being the opposite sexes makes this bond different and yet very deep.  How then do we, as mothers, instill a love for the Blessed Mother in our sons?   This is something very important to do, regardless of the age of our sons.

Here are a few ideas.
 
First of all, mom, you need to have a special devotion to Mary yourself.   Pray the rosary, talk with Mary, and have a statue of her and pictures of her in the home. In the eyes of Our Lady, we never cease to be little. Ask Mary to accompany you through your day, while you are doing your ordinary tasks.
 
Once you have developed a relationship with the Blessed Mother, it’ll be easier for your sons to be drawn to her as well. Talk to your sons about Mary and her role in their salvation.  My favorite story to meditate on, and to talk with my own sons, is the Wedding Feast at Cana.  It has so many different levels that we can draw upon depending upon the age of our boys. At a quick glance, and for young boys, it is a simple but clear message that boys should obey their mothers and that the Blessed Mother always directs us to her Son.  I can think in my mind — over and over — how Jesus wasn’t planning to do a miracle until His appointed time, but because His Momma asked him, He did.  The situation wasn’t important to anyone but the hosts of the wedding.   Mary, in her kindness, didn’t want the hosts of the wedding to be embarrassed.  Jesus could not refuse her request in Cana, so he can’t refuse her prayers in Heaven. Our Lady will listen to the prayers of our sons and doesn’t discrimate or validate the requests — she brings them to her Son. Our young Catholic men need to truly become aware of this reality.
 
In addition, if you haven’t done so already, consecrate your sons to the Blessed Mother. This will ensure her heavenly protection for your son’s entire life!   Take your children to the statue of our Blessed Mother in your parish regularly to greet Our Lady and to light a candle.  Having a statue to look at makes her real.  Our children are smart enough to know we aren’t worshipping the statue but are using it to help focus our minds. 

Boys will be drawn to her kind face and helping them light a candle and kneel to say a short prayer will keep their little minds and hands occupied for a minute or two.  It takes short but repetitive prayers and actions for children to learn.  Devotion to Mary has to be taught and the children learn by doing.  As they get older you can take them the Church during a quiet time and allow them a few private minutes at a Marian statue while you, yourself, are praying in a different area of the Church.
 
Teach your sons devotions to Our Lady, like saying the family Rosary, offering their day to Jesus and Mary and praying at night.  A friend recently shared that her son found great comfort in having a rosary that was just a decade long and that he kept it under his pillow at night in a way that made him think of Mary and Jesus.

Always remember that children learn by example — even if you feel they are too old to still get the message — your example is important. If they see you doing these things, they will be more likely to embrace them themselves.

Recently featured on EWTN, All Things Guy, A Guide to Becoming a Man that Matters, is a book for young Catholic boys which has a “Combat Training Plan” to help them develop a prayer life that includes Mary, along with other great Catholic information for boys.  The book is filled with Church history, great examples of Catholic men today like Bill Donohue from the Catholic League and Father Frank Pavone from Priests for Life. There are fun puzzle and brain teasers, and ways that will make each boy develop into a Catholic man who makes a difference in the world. All Things Guy is recommended for boys aged 9 through 15.

Having this book at the bed stand is a great way to feed your son tidbits of the Faith and also help him develop a loving relationship with his heavenly Momma.

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I am a wife and mother of three. I am co-founder of Runway to Reality, a nonprofict organization that teaches fashion and modesty to girls. I am a coauthor with Teresa Tomeo and Monica Cops on the All Things Girl book series for girls.

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  • http://4marks.com Donald Hudzinski

    A momma’s boy will never become a man, but maybe that is the point, for a mother can control a boy, but she will not be able to control a man, and is this about who has the power, men or women.

    A boy should be shown Saint Joseph, a true example of being a man, and a husband. I recommend that the pray the Grateful Mysteries of Saint Joseph.

    Grateful Mysteries of Saint Joseph

    1st – Annunciation
    Our Father(1) – Joseph Son of David(10) – Glory Be(1)

    2nd – Birth of Christ
    Our Father(1) – Joseph Son of David(10) – Glory Be(1)

    3rd – The Presentation
    Our Father(1) – Joseph Son of David(10) – Glory Be(1)

    4th – Flight into Egypt
    Our Father(1) – Joseph Son of David(10) – Glory Be(1)

    5th – The Finding in the Temple
    Our Father(1) – Joseph Son of David(10) – Glory Be(1)

    Joseph Son of David

    Joseph son of David do not be afraid, to take Mary home as your wife, she will bear a son, you must name Him, Jesus

    Jesus is the One who save us from our sins, O foster father of Jesus, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

    Holy Family Prayer

    O Sacred Heart of Jesus, for Whom it is impossible to have compassion of the afflicted, and pity on miserable sinners, grant us the grace which we ask of You, through the sorrowful, Immaculate, and Sacred Hearts of Joseph and Mary, your tender father and mother and ours. Pray for us, O Holy Spouses of God, that we may be worthy of the promises of Christ.
    Amen.

    Prayer to Saint Joseph

    To you, O blessed Joseph, do we come in tribulation, and having implored the help of your holy Spouse, we confidently invoke your patronage also. Through the charity that bound to the Immaculate Virgin Mother of God, and through the paternal love with which you embraced the Child Jesus, we humbly beg your inheritance, which Jesus Christ purchased by His Blood, and with your power and strength to aid us in our necessities.

    O most watchful Guardian of the Holy Family, defend the chosen children of Jesus Christ; O most loving Father, ward off from us every contagion of error and corrupted influence; O our most mighty Protector, be propitious to us, and from Heaven assist us in our struggle with the powers of darkness; and as once you rescued the Child Jesus from deadly peril, so now protect God’s Holy Church from the snares of the enemy and from all adversity; shield too, each one of us by your example and your aid, we may be able to live piously, to die holy, and obtain eternal happiness in Heaven. Amen.

  • Warren Jewell

    And, ‘boys’ (and girls, of all ages), see how God in His wisdom has given you one Mom here to bear you, guide you and love you. Even if you are adopted, your birth Mom is joined to your raising Mom in the joy of having you. Like our Father in heaven, your birth Mom sent you to your Mom most like Mary, to raise ‘a Mama’s boy’ in the footsteps of Jesus.

    As I posted to my Facebook ‘wall’: “Take a look for your Mom. Take a good look at her. And, remember, you only get your one Mom in your life. Take care of Mom. She deserves more than you can give.”

    O, Mother Mary, Mom of moms, pray for us, children of God and you, and our Moms.
    Lead all of us children to your Son, ‘the Mama’s Boy’ Who never fails in His graces and His mercies.
    We ask this in His very Name, Jesus Christ, at Whose Name my rickety old knees still look to bend, my gray head to bow, my eyes to well, touched and grateful, that all He asks of me is the love He first gave to me.

  • http://4marks.com Donald Hudzinski

    The First Wednesday Devotion to St. Joseph was revealed in the Our Lady of America Devotion in the 1950’s. Jesus and Mary desire that the Pure Heart of St. Joseph be honored on the First Wednesday of each month. On March 30, 1958, St. Joseph appeared to Sister Mildred and said:

    I am the protector of the Church and the home, as I was the protector of Christ and His Mother while I lived upon earth. Jesus and Mary desire that my pure heart, so long hidden and unknown, be now honored in a special way. Let my children honor my most pure heart in a special manner on the First Wednesday of the month by reciting the Joyful Mysteries of the Rosary in memory of my life with Jesus and Mary and the love I bore them, the sorrow I suffered with them. Let them receive Holy Communion in union with the love with which I received the Savior for the first time and each time I held Him in my arms.

    St. Joseph promised, “Those who honor me in this way will be consoled by my presence at their death, and I myself will conduct them safely into the presence of Jesus and Mary.”

  • Cheryl Dickow

    Donald,

    Rest assured that All Things Guy: A Guide to Becoming a Man that Matters features such strong role models as St. Joseph, Father Frank Pavone, William Donohue, Father Michael McGivney, Tom Monaghan, Blessed Miguel Pro and many others.

    To further dispel your fears, here’s what Al Kresta, President and CEO of Ave Maria Radio says: Many fathers suspect the “feminizing of the faith” and long for a more muscular Christianity to pass along to their sons….All Things Guy is among the best resource…Don’t let the opportunity to grow strong, faithful men slip by…

    Men who can claim Mary as Mother are the strongest men around.

  • http://4marks.com Donald Hudzinski

    Cheryl Dickow,

    It was the title of the article, Momma’s boy. It reminds me of what a sister told me once, women do contraception and abortion, so as to keep men boys. Women controlling men for their own idea of their superiority.

  • Cheryl Dickow

    Donald,

    I would certainly think that since this was all about the Blessed Mother, the idea of whatever your sister said to you regarding contraception, abortion, power and the like wouldn’t even enter into the picture.

    As the mother of three sons, and in context of the Virgin Mary being the Mother — which is what the article was about, I can’t imagine anything more conforting than for my son’s to be Momma’s boys.

    When we consider JPII’s relationship with Mary I would harzard a guess that he, too, would have gladly called himself a “Momma’s boy.”

  • http://4marks.com Donald Hudzinski

    Cheryl,

    Oh, I do not have a sister, this was a nun. I believe JPII relationship with Mary was that of a man, not a boy. I do not believe Mary would ever want me to remain a boy all of my life.

    Mary loves men, she would never limit them, for then they may never become Her son. Men are Christo centric too, especially Saint Joseph.

    Mary love Saint Joseph because of his love of Christ, and Saint Joseph love Mary because her love of Christ.

    Mary said, “We were looking for You with anxiety!”, they were like children, looking for a lost parent in a shopping mall, they were afraid to lose site of Him. Out of this great love, Jesus got up leaving those who hide from Him, to be with those who are afraid of His loss.

    Now, if you are saying to us that Mary is a girl and Saint Joseph is a boy, I will go along with your point, for in this sense we are all boys and girls.

  • http://4marks.com Donald Hudzinski

    My guess then is that you are a daddy’s girl and that daddy is Saint Joseph.

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