Comments on: Has the American Family Court System Become Totalitarian?

By: guitarmom

guitarmom — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 18:01:02 +0000

A case supporting Dr. Morse’s article. My brother’s wife left him — and their two daughters — for a rich man who supplied her with cocaine. My brother wanted custody of the girls, yet the family court wanted to give custody to the mother. They treated my brother as if he were the drug addict. He desperately wanted to keep his two daughters safe from their mother’s destructive life style.

Only the fact that his wife was so drug addled that she couldn’t keep a sentence straight and kept missing court dates saved my two nieces. My brother has been a fantastic father, although sadly a single one. Yet the courts were on his wife’s side until she had completely discredited herself.

By: Arkanabar Ilarsadin

Arkanabar Ilarsadin — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 14:32:17 +0000

@Terri, Phoebe, and amarie;

we know of ONE such example of Mr. Baldwin losing his temper with his daughter. If there is in fact a pattern of such behavior, why was only one such message released?

I know two men who have been hauled into family court. In both cases, it taught them to regard their wives as enemies, when they formerly had not. In at least one case, it taught the wife in question to regard her husband as an enemy, when she formerly had not.

The second of these related an impression he had: that once the divorce machinery gets started, it is ONLY the respondent who wishes to stop it. Nobody else — not even HIS LAWYER — is motivated to do so.

By: PrairieHawk

PrairieHawk — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 11:46:26 +0000

Our Lady predicted to the children of Fatima almost a century ago that the “errors of Russia” would spread throughout the whole world. Now we can see it happening before our very eyes.

I used to think that it “took a village” to raise a child; now I understand that it takes parents to raise a child. This should have been obvious to me as I am the product of divorce myself. It is my testimony that I would have been better off had my parents never divorced, even though my father was a dangerous, abusive drunk. Mom should have gotten me away from him and then stayed single but still married, allowing my Grandfather to step into my father’s parental role. Instead, Mom got a no-fault divorce in Arizona and remarried less than two years later to a man who was just as bad in his own way.

The system completely failed my mother and me; with some proper guidance at the right time, everything could have turned out different. The Church was nowhere to be found, either. Mom’s second marriage was in the Lutheran church and all it meant to her was that she couldn’t go to Communion. I ended up poorly catechized (this was the 70′s and the 80′s) and it was a miracle of grace that I found my way home as an adult.

The errors of Russia are atheism and totalitarianism. We have millions of people in this country living in practical atheism, even if they profess a belief in God. And it seems our government is becoming more totalitarian every day. Where is it all going? I don’t know, but we need to pray to Our Lady, Patroness of the Americas, for the future of our country and for the lives of our children.

By: Cheryl Dickow

Cheryl Dickow — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 10:45:59 +0000

goral,

You have made such an excellent point with this comment. Perfect really!

“As a left-wing darling of the media he [Baldwin] probably thought that he was exempt from being devoured by the divorce devil that his types created.”

By: goral

goral — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 03:51:00 +0000

Why are our Catholic women on this website so razor-sharp and balanced?
As if I didn’t know.
Dr. Morse just cuts to the marrow in this article.
The Marxists are absolutely responsible for divorce as it is and the KGB methods of intrusions that are imposed on a troubled family.
All gov’t is totalitarian in nature and only vigilant citizens keep it in check.

If they can get their way with families, they win and families lose.
Dr. Morse knows the history and source of the policies that the law, feminists and anti-God liberals want to inflict on society.
Of course it’s marketed and sold as the solution to abuse, domestic violence and
all sorts of exploitations. It’s a red lie but comrade Baldwin bought into it.

As a left-wing darling of the media he probably thought that he was exempt from being devoured by the divorce devil that his types created.
Not so, the devil has to be fed. To the system he’s just one of millions of abusive Baldwins out there.

To those enamored with Marxism it’s all personal. It’s right if it works for them and mistaken when it costs them. It’s man vs. woman and prosperous vs. poor. It’s not about the cohesion of the family but the cohesion of the socialist community.

Dr. Morse points out correctly that in the family court the feminists rule. We know they all regard the family as a prison for women. The sympathetic face they present to troubled women, those who want a better life for themselves and their children more times than not closes in the woman losing her family her dignity
and her financial support.

By: steve p

steve p — Sun, 18 Oct 2009 00:44:52 +0000

The article is not about the abuse of women. It is about a system of “no fault” divorce in which a woman can decide she is “not happy” for any reason, or no reason (fault), even if there is no abuse and the other party or parties, when you include the children, gets abused by the legal system. Imposed on the other parties are the significant emotional and financial burdens of maintaining two households, child support and possibly alimony, even when no wrong or harm was done. Any young man who knows or thinks about this legal stacked deck, thinks twice about entering into marriage. And that doesn’t even address the burdens imposed on the community at large.

steve p

By: Terri Kimmel

Terri Kimmel — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 20:31:41 +0000

I have to agree with amarie. I think this article assumes that Baldwin is innocent and completely truthful in his book. Even under the circumstances described, I still think Baldwin’s inappropriate behavior was strongly indicative if his character and not an isolated incidence.

Women ARE victims of domestic violence more than men are. It is a common occurrence. Personally, I think our current cultural climate of sexual promiscuity is probably one of the engines driving mistreatment of women. Feminism fails to make this connection and pours fuel on the fire with its agenda pushing contraception and abortion. Feminine dignity has to be recognized and reverenced before there will ever be true moral or social order. Divorce and the disorder that follows it are just symptoms of the disease.

By: phoebe

phoebe — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 18:52:02 +0000

So we have heard Baldwin’s side of the story. We don’t know the other side of things.I would hesitate to elevate him to being just the wronged one although I can sympathize with his dealings in the court system.

By: NovusOrdoSeclorum

NovusOrdoSeclorum — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 17:58:46 +0000

Good article. The Marxist tendencies of feminism is something which does not get much coverage–I wasn’t really aware of this issue.

By: amarie

amarie — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 17:32:59 +0000

This is the first time I have disagreed with an article on CE. Let’s focus on just one piece for now: “visitation supervisors, parenting class instructors, anger management instructors. These are all professionals that most people normally never see, but who have abnormally large impacts on the lives of divorcing families. Think of this: the courts and their appointees are controlling the day-to-day lives of a man innocent of any wrongdoing.” Why are we to assume he is innocent especially after the way he spoke to his daughter! He might speak to her like this on a regular basis.. just this time he was caught. Mea Culpa. Please! How can excuses be made for his bad behavior? Is he not personally responsible for his own behavior whether or not he has been wronged by the court system. Would Dr Morse allow her husband to speak to her or her daughter that way? What if he did; what would she do? Perhaps Bassinger wanted something better for herself and her daughter: a life free from being being screamed at and belittled. It is highly unlikely that this was an isolated incident. Supervised visitation, parenting classes, and anger management courses are not normal in custody cases. They are introduced for persons who have problems like the following: verbal and physical abusers, drug addicts, and alcoholics. What are we doing when we switch the blame for Baldwin’s bad behavior to his ex-wife or the courts?