Comments on: Love Dare Day Four: Love is Thoughtful http://catholicexchange.com/2009/03/03/116446/ Catholic News, Catholic Articles, Catholic Apologetics, Catholic Content, Catholic Information Fri, 10 Feb 2012 03:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.2 By: Doris Rodriguez http://catholicexchange.com/2009/03/03/116446/comment-page-1/#comment-38978 Doris Rodriguez Tue, 24 Mar 2009 10:30:47 +0000 http://catholicexchange.com/?p=116446#comment-38978 Today we had a major breakthrough! I have been very resentful of Ricky’s inability to talk about what happened to Cuddles and his seemingly indifferent attitude toward her since the accident, but when I finally told him how hurt I was over it, he admitted that he had cried for her in private. I asked him why he couldn’t show his feelings in front of me and he said something about needing to be strong for me. I told him that I needed him to be “weak” sometimes so that I would know he is human. When I found out that he had cried over Cuddles, my heart just melted for him. I need him to be honest in his emotions. When Cuddles went through her trauma, I needed to be held, but Ricky wasn’t there for me. We could have cried and grieved together, and it would have been such a comfort to me … and to him, too. We have to learn to turn to each other in times of hurt and sorrow, not away from each other. It’s not the words I need or his silent strength … it’s his willing shoulder and loving arms around me in times of great sorrow. And he needed the same thing. Sometimes the best thing you can do for a grieving friend ... is just sit and cry with them ... and wait for the storm to pass. Just call me Job. LOL Heavenly Father, teach me to love unconditionally. Help me learn to be thoughtful of my husband and to think before I speak. Give me patience and help me be kind. Help me to put his needs before my own. Amen. +++ Today we had a major breakthrough! I have been very resentful of Ricky’s inability to talk about what happened to Cuddles and his seemingly indifferent attitude toward her since the accident, but when I finally told him how hurt I was over it, he admitted that he had cried for her in private. I asked him why he couldn’t show his feelings in front of me and he said something about needing to be strong for me. I told him that I needed him to be “weak” sometimes so that I would know he is human. When I found out that he had cried over Cuddles, my heart just melted for him. I need him to be honest in his emotions. When Cuddles went through her trauma, I needed to be held, but Ricky wasn’t there for me. We could have cried and grieved together, and it would have been such a comfort to me … and to him, too. We have to learn to turn to each other in times of hurt and sorrow, not away from each other. It’s not the words I need or his silent strength … it’s his willing shoulder and loving arms around me in times of great sorrow. And he needed the same thing. Sometimes the best thing you can do for a grieving friend … is just sit and cry with them … and wait for the storm to pass. Just call me Job. LOL

Heavenly Father, teach me to love unconditionally. Help me learn to be thoughtful of my husband and to think before I speak. Give me patience and help me be kind. Help me to put his needs before my own. Amen. +++

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