Comments on: Dating’s Not What it Used to Be http://catholicexchange.com/2008/09/01/113633/ Catholic News, Catholic Articles, Catholic Apologetics, Catholic Content, Catholic Information Fri, 10 Feb 2012 03:46:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.2 By: heinz http://catholicexchange.com/2008/09/01/113633/comment-page-1/#comment-33742 heinz Tue, 02 Sep 2008 20:23:50 +0000 http://www.newcesite.com/2008/09/01/113633/#comment-33742 In my own experience, if I had dated during my tween years, there would probably have been many very important things about life I would have missed. Pax In my own experience, if I had dated during my tween years, there would probably have been many very important things about life I would have missed.

Pax

]]> By: krby34 http://catholicexchange.com/2008/09/01/113633/comment-page-1/#comment-33683 krby34 Mon, 01 Sep 2008 15:11:02 +0000 http://www.newcesite.com/2008/09/01/113633/#comment-33683 Claire - in all be loving and consistent from now on. Talk about relationships with your children at all ages. Not sex - relationships. As they become older obviously sexuality needs to be discussed but sex is always discussed in the relationship of marriage. You want your child to have healthy choices about PDA (Public Displays of Affection), you and your husband need to be healthy in example. Do not hide your physical expression of affection but keep it modest, if you hide it their imagination can only provide answers to what is appropriate. Holding hands on a walk is proper; a sweet kiss briefly as you meet or separate is proper; long passionate kisses while standing in line is not proper; hanging and groping on each other as you sit or stand around with others is not proper. Find opportunities around you to discuss proper and improper examples as your child grows. Follow the direction the government gives us for all the other improper things (isn't it funny how the government doesn't see it as the solution for this though - but that is another topic) - "Just say NO to drugs, smoking, drinking AND sex. But explain that like drugs and drinking at the proper time, place and conditions each are appropriate: drugs help heal and cure when used properly, drinking is acceptable in moderation at appropriate events, sex is beautiful and sanctifying when shared in marriage. Any of these outside the proper place and need is abuse and hurtful to those involved. Our 15 year old daughter is still not "dating" but has many friends both girls and boys. We talk often about her first date rules and that I do not have an age for when that will be. It will be based on her, the young man and their relationships maturity. We talk about the pressure to do things in one-on-one dates and that group/public/monitored activities without "coupling up" help to provide strength and can provide examples to the individuals to make the right choices in behavior. A friend recently shared that her and her husband always double dated with their son and his dates. This helped him to see how a man should behave when escorting a lady. What actions he should take to show he appreciated and cared for her without direct skin to skin contact. How to respect her beauty and person hood in his actions to serve her as escort. How to be Christ in a marriage, sacrifice self and give to another without the need to receive anything in return. Claire – in all be loving and consistent from now on. Talk about relationships with your children at all ages. Not sex – relationships. As they become older obviously sexuality needs to be discussed but sex is always discussed in the relationship of marriage. You want your child to have healthy choices about PDA (Public Displays of Affection), you and your husband need to be healthy in example. Do not hide your physical expression of affection but keep it modest, if you hide it their imagination can only provide answers to what is appropriate. Holding hands on a walk is proper; a sweet kiss briefly as you meet or separate is proper; long passionate kisses while standing in line is not proper; hanging and groping on each other as you sit or stand around with others is not proper. Find opportunities around you to discuss proper and improper examples as your child grows. Follow the direction the government gives us for all the other improper things (isn’t it funny how the government doesn’t see it as the solution for this though – but that is another topic) – “Just say NO to drugs, smoking, drinking AND sex. But explain that like drugs and drinking at the proper time, place and conditions each are appropriate: drugs help heal and cure when used properly, drinking is acceptable in moderation at appropriate events, sex is beautiful and sanctifying when shared in marriage. Any of these outside the proper place and need is abuse and hurtful to those involved.

Our 15 year old daughter is still not “dating” but has many friends both girls and boys. We talk often about her first date rules and that I do not have an age for when that will be. It will be based on her, the young man and their relationships maturity. We talk about the pressure to do things in one-on-one dates and that group/public/monitored activities without “coupling up” help to provide strength and can provide examples to the individuals to make the right choices in behavior.

A friend recently shared that her and her husband always double dated with their son and his dates. This helped him to see how a man should behave when escorting a lady. What actions he should take to show he appreciated and cared for her without direct skin to skin contact. How to respect her beauty and person hood in his actions to serve her as escort. How to be Christ in a marriage, sacrifice self and give to another without the need to receive anything in return.

]]> By: Claire http://catholicexchange.com/2008/09/01/113633/comment-page-1/#comment-33671 Claire Mon, 01 Sep 2008 12:23:42 +0000 http://www.newcesite.com/2008/09/01/113633/#comment-33671 My husband and I feel that there is no place for dating till a child is ready to discern marriage. I am rather intimidated about how we're going to enforce this with our adopted son, who was exposed to alcohol in utero and might have impulsivity issues. My husband and I feel that there is no place for dating till a child is ready to discern marriage. I am rather intimidated about how we’re going to enforce this with our adopted son, who was exposed to alcohol in utero and might have impulsivity issues.

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