On Deliberate Detachment and Intentional Attachment

February 26th, 2008 by Pat Gohn Print This Article Print This Article ·

I'm no expert on keeping "a good Lent". I'm just a Catholic trying to stay close to Jesus, my family, my community, and my Church. Even just typing that last sentence makes me squirm a bit because, if you met me last week, you'd probably say I wasn't really making any headway in those categories.

So, for the sake of those moments when we all feel spiritually weak and immature, I'm here to say: Inch forward. 

Leaping, striding, dashing headlong into trying to recover what's left in Lent by gritting our teeth, being extra-extra mortifying or sacrificial, etc, etc… well, forget it. Inch forward.

What we really need is a way to keep moving forward, if only an inch at a time. It's a humility to be little. To be… less (especially to be less successful than we thought we'd be). John the Baptist said it best, referring to Jesus: "He must increase, but I must decrease" (John 3:30).

Less is more when you bring it to Jesus. He's the great multiplier of whatever few "loaves and fish" we've got.

Remember the boy who gave up his lunch for Jesus? Andrew said to him, "There is a lad here who has five barley loaves and two fish; but what are they among so many?" (John 6: 8-9). Look what Jesus did with that little one-time sacrifice! Jesus then took the loaves, and when he had given thanks, he distributed them to [the multitude] who were seated; so also the fish, as much as they wanted (John 6:11).

Remember what St. Therese of Lisieux recommends? "I prefer the monotony of obscure sacrifice to all ecstasies. To pick up a pin for love can convert a soul." C'mon now, a pin? I was thinking a little bigger than that… but I wonder, could I really pick up a pin and do it in a loving way? If I'm honest about menial chores, (as my teenagers would say), I'm busted… the saints always get it right. 

It all comes down to what I can do deliberately and intentionally. What can I do deliberately to detach myself from worldly goods? In what ways can I "give up a lunch" so Jesus might do more with it? 

How can I intentionally attach myself to Jesus? In what ways can I "pick up pins for love"?

 Better to skip lunch and make one prayerful, attentive daily Mass than (fill in the blank with something "extraordinary" I thought I might do for Lent). Better to shut down the Internet and pick up my rosary with heartfelt devotion, than to (fill in the blank with what I thought sounded like a heroic Lenten practice.)

So, I'm inching along. None of what I might do this Lent will change the world. But it is supposed to change me. That way, come Easter, there might be an increase of Him, and a decrease of me. One lunch, one pin at a time: inch-by-inch.

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Pat Gohn is married to Bob and together they have raised three young adults. Pat holds a Masters degree in Theology and Christian Ministry from Franciscan University of Steubenville. She writes from her home in Massachusetts. Pat also hosts Among Women, a weekly podcast for Catholic women. Find the link at the bottom of Today's Catholic Woman homepage. Visit her website at http://www.patgohn.com. Pat can be reached at pat.gohn@comcast.net.



2 Comments For This Post

  1. Guest says:

    Very moving Pat - Thanx - AndyP/Doria2 - Yonkers,  NY

  2. Guest says:

    I can identify so much with this article. My lent thus far has been a series of unaccomplished goals. Going to Stations every Friday?- let's see- forgot the first two weeks, was so sick the third weekend not only couldn't go to Stations, I had to stay home from Mass Sunday, and last week didn't have a car because I lent it to a child so he could go to work as his is in the shop. I'm not even inching, maybe going by millimeters- but I crawl forward, ask for forgivness, and keep going. I have seen more fruit from my last confession than from all my other plans and schemes for spiritual enrichment.  I marvel at the great work He has done in such a short time through that sacrament. The message here I think is to stop pushing so hard to move forward and just BE where we are. If we relax a little, some time in the future we will marvel at how far He has brought us, not what we accomplished with all OUR plans.

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