There is another gospel that helps us to understand this gospel better. The gospel of Luke says: “If any man comes to me and hates not his father and mother and wife and children and brethren and sisters and his own life, he cannot be my disciple.” There is danger that sometimes because of our affections and family ties, this “love” or affection may get in the way of doing the will of God. Sometimes, these people can become gods of our lives. A god is something or someone that we worship, idolize, give priority to in order to get life out of them. We may be mistaken in thinking that we can get life out of people. And when we do, we start to treat them like gods. And we may start not to love God above all other gods. That is why the condition of being a disciple requires that we set our priorities right; that we set our sights first on the kingdom of God and all the rest will be given to us as well, and not the other way around. From this we see that it is not easy to become a disciple of Christ, and Christ knows this very well. He knows what is most important, what is going to be the real food, and that is to do the will of God and not the will of his mother or brothers and certainly not his own will.
This gospel is invaluable when we are confronted with certain decisions in life where we compromise the will of God with our own will, with our affections that may get in the way of following God. What helps us to have a clear discernment and determination to put God first is to realize and be filled with love for God in all things. Being a disciple is a radical choice. To love is a radical choice. But the reward is peace and joy in the heavenly kingdom.