“The End of Feminism”

While hysteria swirls around Sarah Palin, wife and mother of five, everyone would benefit by taking a large step back from the pandemonium in order to better perceive what is really happening. Her supporters rightly point to her affirmation of life and her ability to juggle family with wider commitments as the cause of a nearly unhinged backlash from liberals, but this is wide of the true mark. The actual cause of international outrage is not her motherhood, but the fact that she does not reject fatherhood. There has been a deliberate blurring of these two facts in recent decades, and it is essential that we restore our critical focus. We have been tricked by a clever charade.

For forty years, we have witnessed incalculable energy being spent on the questions surrounding human reproduction, and most of the capital has been used to promote the separation of stable conjugal relations from nurturing subsequent generations. The terrain in these battles encompasses the right to contraception and no-fault divorce, the glorification of sodomy and same-sex marriage, an unprecedented assault on the purity of children, the degradation of traditional family values in the entertainment industry, and the insidious establishment of the mass media as primary communicant with the young which undermines parental authority. The result is moral anarchy and sexual chaos, which have confused so many impressionable souls about the very meaning of family life and sexual intimacy.

Most pro-family advocates over the decades have pointed to the attack on motherhood as an integral weapon in this war. When a mother turns on the child of her womb as a competitor or even enemy, many rightly presume that civilization is in great peril. It is true that Satan approached Eve in order to bring about our fall from grace — and that diabolical strategy has had its successes ever since — but we cannot lose sight of the subsequent means of restoration. Motherhood was key to salvation and always will be, not only because of the life it fosters but because of the bridge it creates.

The motherhood of Mary is instructive for all mothers, in that she received the seed of God and that she restored our relationship with the Creator, thus placing motherhood within a constellation of family of relationships. The enemies of motherhood strategically attack it — not primarily because of its capacity for life but because of the truth it contains: motherhood is the bridge to fatherhood, and fatherhood is the icon of God Himself. The war on motherhood is of a transitive nature: fatherhood is the true enemy.

Many have asked whether Sarah Palin is a feminist. This brings to the forefront the lively debate among women of faith about whether secular feminism, in its ideal sense, can be a vehicle for the beautiful truths about authentic femininity. Sincere and admirable women have taken both sides of the issue, whose primary component seems to be semantics. Some find the word “feminism” so burdened with misunderstandings that it takes too much time to unburden it; others demand the right to use the word in its purest sense out of principle.

The National Organisation for Women (NOW) has tipped its hand in this debate since the success of Sarah Palin in the national arena. Truly, she seems to have embodied their long-standing mission statement, “Our purpose is to take action to bring women into full participation in society-sharing equal rights, responsibilities and opportunities with men, while living free from discrimination” This ripe claim worked as long as Hillary Clinton was in her ascendancy, but the reality of applying it to the Republican vice presidential nominee rankled NOW to its core, and their keyboards must have overheated.

The result was a hot new mission statement, parading down the feminist runway: “NOW works to end discrimination and harassment in the workplace, schools, the justice system, and all other sectors of society, secure abortion, birth control and reproductive rights for all women.” This new creation — wobbling on shaky syntax and wrapped in a hasty cobbling of goals — nevertheless reveals the feminist view of men, who discriminate, impregnate and otherwise harass women as a matter of course. The veil is dropped, revealing more clearly their Marxist dialectic: the new oppressors are men (who make motherhood possible); therefore women must control the means of reproduction as a weapon to free themselves.

cells.jpgFeminists don’t hate motherhood — as long as it’s on their own terms and disengaged from fatherhood. Sperm banks, in vitro fertilization and lesbian adoptions are touted as hip and brave choices, and cloning is the Promised Land on the horizon. Their true hatred is reserved for fatherhood — for the Todd Palin’s of the world — who love and support the women in their lives and collaborate for the good of their shared offspring.

Sarah Palin has forced their hand for two reasons: she allows her children to live and she collaborates with men. While neither is conducive to the NOW worldview, the first is an irritant, the second is the real outrage. As the nation struggles to understand how feminists could possibly not appreciate this example of hard work, courage, balance and brains, we are invited to look beyond feminism into the back rooms of strange bedfellows.

Why are feminists silent about radical Islam, which habitually oppresses and demeans women around the world? Why do homosexuals collaborate with environmentalists, whose appreciation for pristine beauty would seem to exclude bathhouse orgies laced with unnatural substances? Why do Wiccans and New Agers turn a blind eye to fascistic atheists whose material world view would crush their spiritual longings in a heartbeat? Why does every radical parade host this hodge-podge of elements of the most unlikely diaspora?

The answer is found in their shared hatred of all manifestations of fatherhood. The widespread contempt for legitimate authority thus devolves into a collective tantrum ultimately pointed at the Father-God of all. Behind every raging feminist is a wounded heart that blames the patriarchy. Hence the giddy embrace of queer-eyed metrosexuals; the love affair with Gaia and perverted theology; the scornful interpretation of patriotic gestures as shallow jingoism, the drive to castrate the military through social experiments that distract the soldiers from their mission; and the ramped-up government programs that undermine the principle of subsidiarity which is the very source of fatherly strength and oversight within the family.

The goal of feminism is to destroy fatherhood by destroying the links inherent in traditional family life. This scheme allows only two options for men: either excessive brutality to remind the world of the dangers of too much testosterone or the abdication of responsibility through feckless self-interest. Any deviation from these models is discouraged or ridiculed.

Women wield an extraordinary influence in this realm because fathers can only know their children when the mothers cooperate, and male authority finds its legitimate voice only when women bring themselves and their children to submit to it. Given the widespread contempt for masculine strength and legitimate authority among the youth of the West, we would have to conclude that the diaspora has had tremendous success thus far.

Pope Benedict has alluded to this state of affairs in his recent address at Lourdes: “My greatest concern is for young people. Some of them are struggling to find the right direction or are suffering from a loss of connection to family life.” The disintegration of the family, he notes, is alarming. “Sometimes on the margins and often left to themselves, they are vulnerable and must come to terms on their own with a reality that often overwhelms them.”

How is it that reality itself is incomprehensible to these young people? It is because the enemies of God have collaborated to make motherhood and fatherhood themselves alien notions. While this is the end of feminism, it is most assuredly not the end of the family, and women are key to the resurgence of truth. The family is not subject to redefinition, nor a playground for innovation. Strong, well-grounded women are critical because they are the essential bridge to fatherhood, they are the guiding lights for these children struggling to know reality.

Any environmentalist can explain the dynamic interactions among living creatures, and the family is the most important eco-system of all. When the Vatican organized a congress earlier this year to honour the Church’s finest document about women, Mulieris Dignitatem, it called the event: “Man and Women: Humanity in its Entirety,” highlighting the need for collaboration between the sexes. Even the survivors of Lost know that we “live together or die alone.” The problem with feminists is their zero-sum game, in which “grrl power” must be achieved at the expense of boys and men — and babies.

While we fight to defend motherhood, let us always remember that it is the link to something greater — the Father from Whom all fathers take their name. The strategic deconstruction of fatherhood makes it increasingly difficult for children to understand the natural order and to find God — indeed, to find their way to their ultimate home. Motherhood is not an abstract but the solution. Just as Mary’s fiat “magnified the Lord,” authentic femininity is a pole star pointing to the One who makes all life possible, primarily by loving and supporting masculinity in all its richness. Defend motherhood — for the sake of fatherhood. That’s the ultimate target in these turbulent times.

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  • stutmann9

    Women who rally against the qualities of motherhood, (ie..fertility, childbearing,breastfeeding any bonding whatsoever with men)are in reality rejecting their humanity and therefore become in themselves more “inhuman”. This inhuman-ness comes out in the radicalism of their behavior. It is a rejection of God and the way “HE” made them, and the fact that God Himself is “male” in persona. In my opinion they are not “feminists” and do not even deserve to have the term feminist attached to them. I would call them “separatists” because they want to separate themselves from their own femininity, separate themselves from God and His fatherhood and authority over them,separate themselves from men and separate humanity from God. In short, they are cooperating in the original mission of the enemy of God, Satan himself!
    Satan hates and rejects God, hates humanity and wants to separate humanity from God. What an agenda!

  • BerenCamlost

    This is an excellent article. If the author reads this post I want her to know that I deeply and sincerely appreciate her bravery and willingness to stand in the way of and cross swords with these forces that wish to destroy our families and ourselves. Feminism has been a major concern of mine and it seemed like nobody was effectively saying anything against it. I am know it does a lot of damage and here you have clearly and effectively written against it. So, thank you and I am for you!

  • Doris Rodriguez

    How I wish I could broadcast this message on a mega-large scale so that it would be read by EVERYONE! I am one of those 70’s feminists who burned their bras, shouted I AM WOMAN, HEAR ME ROAR, and who took birth control so she could have her cake and eat it, too! I demanded the same equal pay as men, formed a WE HATE ALL MEN club when my heart got broken, and joined the Army so I could make a semi-loud statement there, too! I had gay friends who dragged me to gay bars in a sad effort to help me understand their pain and isolation, and I opened a door that should never have been opened, thus creating a crack that the enemy would later use against me through one of my sons. In essence, I am part of the reason the world is in the shape it is today, and I KNOW IT!

    As a mother, the Lord saw fit to give me three wonderful sons and no daughters! Each one of my “boys” represent “manhood” as seen through post-70’s Elton John glasses: the oldest is somewhat insecure around women and not quite sure he wants to tackle marrying one, so at 26 he’s content to play the field and indulge in sexual activity outside the bounds of marriage; the middle one is a talented and sensitive young man who struggles with homosexual tendencies that are constantly at war with his Catholic morals and beliefs; and the youngest is a playful male chauvenist who uses his wit and charm to build up his male ego in order to semi-level the whole man/woman playing field and to keep the women in his life under control. A sad state of affairs, indeed! And, as they say, hindsight is 20/20!

    To make matters worse, I rebelled against the teachings of the Catholic Church as a young mother and dragged my children from one Protestant Church to another in search of a God who would let me do whatever I wanted and still save me from eternal damnation. What I found was confusion and internal fighting over a thousand different opinions over WHO God is and WHAT He wants! Eventually it became easier to zero in on the one or two things that I knew was in error and move on, which is why I think there are so many splits and break-aways in so many Protestant churches! This search for a basic and non-compromising TRUTH and AUTHORITY eventually led me back to the Catholic church after twenty years of wandering in the desert … and although it is often difficult to live under its Authority and Truth, Peter’s response, so disarmingly simple, often echoes through my mind: “Lord, to whom shall we go?”

    This entry has been the most painful to write because it isn’t easy laying everything out there for all to see! Disobedience, rebellion, parental mistakes, gross errors in discernment and judgement – all of these things have cost me and my family so much! I don’t know what it is going to take to get our world going in the right direction, but I do know that the Catholic Church is doing everything it can to reverse the damage! And now that I have come under its authority, I am at peace because now I feel like I am, too!

  • mkochan

    Dearest Doris, what you have is true contrition. That is the key to all the blessings of heaven. Only God can fix the messes we make of things — of our lives and this world. Thank you for this testimony to the truth; it is very powerful.

  • stutmann9

    Bravo to Doris! God’s grace has worked powerfully in your life! God is the God of second chances, isn’t it a wonder to behold! You were lost and now you are found! I am just so thankful to have read your entry, because it is such a testimony to God’s grace and power! Yes, you are now having to cope with the fruits of so-called feminism in your life, but God will help you do it, and I have confidence that He will show you ways of defeating it through your own testimonies of what it did to you and your family. Doing what you just did-posting about your mistakes is a big part of reparation and penance- and that too will bear the good kind of fruit in your life. May God continue the good work He has begun in you!! God Bless you!

  • krby34

    Doris all I have to say is Praise God for he is good. From Him has come the Salvation of the World. Satan has lost. He just won’t give in to that idea yet. Unfortunately he is taking many good souls with him but I pray the Father has gained one back to keep in you. I pray with you for all three of your sons.

    I am a father of four, ages 4.5 to 15.5, three girls and one boy. My wife, of 21.5 years, and I work hard to show the roles of Mother and Father to our children and that each are different but are complimentary to each other, without one the other is incomplete. My 15 year old daughter is a testament to a strong confident woman looking at 13 years of school after high school so that she can have a career she dreams of but committed to a relationship with God that is pure and prays for a husband that can support who she wants to be. My son of 12 years is just starting to notice girls as the treasure they can be as women but has many strong friendships with girls that have nothing to do with dating but are full of relationship! I pray that my 4 and 8 year old girls receive the same blessings.

    Can we all pray together that all children receive truth in their hearts about right relationships and the love God, the Father, has for them that will strengthen them to become great people? I know I will be praying for that!

  • brianl

    Thank you, Doris, for your heartfelt post. You have been given the gift of truth and have just given a powerful witness to that truth. I just discussed almost all the points made in this article with my parish priest last week. I believe that if Satan can mislead our women, then the men will follow. I am a homeschooling father of five (three girls so far) and I’m so thankful that my wife is truly feminine and not the man-hating, self-hating perversion that NOW would like her to be. God bless!

  • elkabrikir

    Excellent article. Thank you.

    Scott Hahn has written a book called, A Father who Keeps His Promises. I bet you can guess who the father is. I believe many are lost vis-a-vis God because so many have grown up with a distrust of human fatherhood. Men share responsibility for this problem, however, women as Genevieve rightly points out, have been responsible for shaping a world view that is antagonistic to responsible fatherhood and indeed has reduced men to no more than objects/sperm donors. Children who do not know and trust and love the father who gave them life, will require a tremendous amount of mercy and grace from the Father of Creation in order to untangle this perversion of parenthood.

    Also, isn’t it ironic that as the feminist movement neutered women and donned britches, bow ties, and bobbed hair, they emasculated men? Gone from their “bible” is the Genesis truth of “in His image He created them. Male and female He created them….”

    I have often said that what I love in a priest is a Man. Pope Benedict is a MAN and so was John Paul II: courageous, bold, authoritative, kind,….. Is it any wonder that this culture rejects the Catholic Church who gives us authentic fatherhood?

    Todd Palin, apparently, is truly Sarah’s helpmate. And, lo, they are Bible believing Christians. And, even worse they both seem happy, very happy.

    Doris, thanks for your witness. Keep praying to St Monica. I hear she has an “in” when it comes to helping save children.

    This is one of my favorite St Augustine passages:

    Late have I loved you, O Beauty so ancient, and so new. Late have I loved you! You were within me but I was outside myself, and there I sought you! In my weakness I ran after the beauty of the things you have made — the things which would have no being unless they existed in you! You have called, you have cried, and you have pierced my deafness. You have radiated forth, you have shined out brightly, and you have dispelled my blindness. You have sent forth your fragrance, and I have breathed it in, and I long for you. I have tasted you, and I hunger and thirst for you. You have touched me, and I ardently desire your peace. Amen.
    – St. Augustine of Hippo, Confessions

    ate have I loved you, Beauty so ancient and so new, late have I loved you!
    Lo, you were within,
    but I outside, seeking there for you,
    and upon the shapely things you have made
    I rushed headlong – I, misshapen.
    You were with me, but I was not with you.
    They held me back far from you,
    those things which would have no being,
    were they not in you.
    You called, shouted, broke through my deafness;
    you flared, blazed, banished my blindness;
    you lavished your fragrance, I gasped; and now I pant for you;
    I tasted you, and now I hunger and thirst;
    you touched me, and I burned for your peace.

  • Hang in there, Doris. The devil would never have tempted you so severely if you didn’t have a lot to offer God.

  • Leila

    An excellent analysis of the problem! Thank you!

    And if I could throw in one more thought that a friend brought to my attention: There is the possibility that the overt hatred toward Sarah Palin personally (I have read two women columnists who have said flatly that Sarah is “not a woman”) might be because these woman are post-abortive.

    It makes sense. Sarah Palin not only is pro-life, but she has dared to have five children and has even carried a “defective” child to term, and adores him openly! This can only cause deep emotions and even rage in those post-abortive women who have used the “pro-choice” rallying cry to mask the feelings that they have not yet come to terms with.

    Just an opinion, but it really gave me a new perspective.

    Let’s pray for all the radical feminists who harbor so much hatred in their hearts, as we can only imagine what kind of things are haunting their souls.

  • Genevieve, thanks for saying what needs to be said to all of us.
    Doris, you are a radiant spirit! There is no shame in speaking of forgiven sin. Continue to be strong for your family.

  • jmtfh

    Dear, Dear Doris–I recognized your name from yesterday’s comments on “Today.” You are certainly an amazing women. You sound as tho you are continuing to love your wayward sons despite their turning away and their sinning–you have not turned your back on them and they will most likely come back (ask for St. Monica’s help).

    And you are actively practicing the corporal works of mercy as exhibited in your recent help at your parish during the Ike refugees “open our doors” adventure.

    YOU GO GIRL!!! You are not far from the kingdom of heaven!

  • janemartin

    Just another affirmation to Doris and Genevieve. Thank you both and God bless you.

  • Lucky Mom of 7

    One of the problems with “feminism” is that it gives abusive men an easy out. “Let’s not address the problem, but rather jump in the boat with the villians.” I’ve said for years that abortion is the ultimate enabling behavior.

    Well-written, as always, Genevieve.


  • How can I get permission to reprint this as a bulletin insert. Not all my parishioners visit our parish portal through Catholic Exchnge, and I would sure like to give them this as an example of what is available and why they should be visiting Catholic Exchange through our parishes’ web site.

    Excellent article. And Doris, you brought a tear to this old Marine chaplain’s eye.

    I was telling my parishioners Friday morning that we need a Miracle – for the sake of the Glory of God. We prayed for the Glory of God in Friday’s Responsorial Psalm at Mass, and I told people of St. Januarius’ blood that liquifies on his feast day. What Miracle would be sufficient for our society?

    Maybe it begins with a renewed vision of fatherhood – and more importantly, Fatherhood (of God).

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