“As the Daughter of the King, You Are a Princess!”

These are the most powerful words a Catholic girl can hear, know, understand, and believe.  Fortunately, many young girls come from homes where this particular dialogue in a common occurrence.  Others come from homes where this message is said, from time to time, but not often enough.  For still others, this is a message that isn’t said at all, under any circumstances.  Regardless of the situation a young Catholic girl experiences, the words are no less true, needed, and valuable.

For me, these were words I neither heard nor knew as I grew up, a child of divorce where Catholicism was left behind like a shredded tire on the side of the highway.  Parents who belonged to strong Catholic families with strong Catholic ties were too wounded themselves to worry about the wounds that had been inflicted upon their children.  Sadly, instead of turning to their faith, they turned from it.  Instead of seeing the healing balm found in their faith, they believed healing to be outside of it, separate from it.  Of course the ramifications of those decisions were to impart neither the faith nor its Truths to me, their only child. 

This isn’t to say that God didn’t provide me with graces, though.  Indeed, it was during these years in my life that I spent countless time in the Jewish homes of my friends and neighbors.  I learned of Jesus as a Jew before I learned of Jesus as a Savior.  My debt to these families will never be known but I have always been able to see how God’s hand has guided my life.

And so, as a grown woman, my own personal journey continues.  It is one in which the Catholic roots planted by grandparents created a foundation that I would eventually embrace with passion.  And while I can’t imagine how my journey could have otherwise unfolded, I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone.  I understand how our personal experiences are necessary for our spiritual growth and yet I have a deep aching to know that this message of Christ’s love is imparted to every young Catholic girl today.

So, as I continue to edit the “All Things Girl” series I find myself being buoyed by the knowledge that any and every girl who reads these words will have her heart touched in a way that may be both valuable and necessary but also in a way that creates a foundation from which a love of and relationship with Christ will flourish.  I see these books as having an impact regardless of which home situation the young Catholic girl lives in, whether she is constantly reminded of Christ’s love or has never heard of such a thing.  I am reminded of what we are told in Ecclesiastes 12:1, “Remember your Creator in the days of your youth.”  The foundation and relationship of faith must be formed during youth to prepare a child for the days ahead. 

Yes, they are words I wish someone had said to me but now I am able to marvel at how loving God is that He would allow me to help those words be said to others!  In my own quest to know, love, and serve Him, He has allowed me to passionately contribute to that same quest of others.  He’s allowing me to help make sure that every girl knows that she is His daughter and, thus, a princess.  The authors of the series have shared their amazement at the way in which I can “jump into their skin and complete a thought or emphasize a point.”  It is because I want every young girl to rejoice in what is being said within the pages of this series.  I want every young girl to know her value in the eyes of Jesus and how loving Him and serving Him will always be like a gift she continues to enjoy.  In passionately telling each young reader how much she is loved by Jesus, I am telling myself, as well.

I’ve just completed editing the third book in this ground-breaking series.  The first title is “Friends, Boys, and Getting Along” and the second is “Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall…What Is Beauty, After All?”  The title just completed is called “Girls Rock!” and I am so thankful to have been part of this work.

“Girls Rock!” is filled with stories about women of faith.  Whether looking at the story of Ruth or reading about Mother Anjelica and Dorothy Day, Catholic girls are inspired to respond to God in a very real, very personal way.  Each and every reader is asked to say “yes” to God in her daily walk.

This book, like all the others in the series, weaves the Truths of Catholicism throughout and uses the teachings of JPII’s Theology of the Body and Mulieris Dignitatem to help every girl rejoice in her role as princess.  Real issues are faced in real ways and girls are encouraged to “have a plan” in which their personal relationships with Jesus are developed through prayer and everyday behaviors.

When I was a young mother and had my three baby boys I used to remark that God knew I wasn’t equipped to raise daughters and so did not give me girls.  In many ways I was too wounded to tend to the special needs of a girl and He knew that.  And I was grateful!  Raising boys had its own challenges but I knew they were quite different than the challenges faced with raising girls.  Then, having taught many years in a parochial school environment, I began seeing the needs of young girls from a perspective and position in which I could respond.  Not being the mother and yet being the teacher (religion and English) allowed me to emphatically tell my young charges about Jesus and His love for each and every one of them.  There was a perfect balance between closeness and distance from which I could “preach.”  Yes, there were rolled eyes but they didn’t hurt me, the teacher, as much as they often hurt a mother.  I worked past all that and kept delivering my message of what it means to be a daughter of the King.

Indeed, as I worked through my own understanding of Christ’s love for me, I was able to share my enthusiasm with my middle school students, but especially with those girls in my classroom.  Every message I had never heard as a young girl now became a lesson.  Every Truth that had been hidden from me, I now revealed in my classes.  I spoke to each girl as if she were my long-lost daughter or maybe my future daughter-in-law.  Every girl needed to know who she was in Jesus and make that relationship her top priority.  As a consequence, boys couldn’t help but take away the knowledge that they had better be treating these girls with honor and respect as daughters of the King. 

The boys were easily able to see that that, they, too, were His children.  They were His sons, they were princes!  I admit that sometimes I was practically jumping around the classroom.

I share all this to say, imagine my feelings in being asked to edit this book series!  After speaking at a women’s conference a couple of years ago, a woman came up to me and breathlessly asked, “Wow.  What has happened to you that you could be so inspirational?”  I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry but now I finally do.  I cry tears of joy at the idea that God uses each of us, if we allow it, for His purpose and for His glory.  And that He has so honored me to work on this book series is testament to the graces He has in store for each and every princess, regardless of her age.

Cheryl Dickow

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Cheryl Dickow is a Catholic wife, mother, author and speaker. Cheryl’s newest book is Wrapped Up: God’s Ten Gifts for Womenwhich is co-authored with Teresa Tomeo and is published by Servant (a division of Franciscan Media); there is also a companion journal that accompanies the book and an audio version intended for women’s studies or for individual reflection. Cheryl’s titles also include the woman’s inspirational fiction book Elizabeth: A Holy Land Pilgrimage. Elizabeth is available in paperback or Kindle format. Her company is Bezalel Books where her goal is to publish great Catholic books for families and classrooms that entertain while uplifting the Catholic faith and is located at www.BezalelBooks.com. To invite Cheryl to speak at your event, write her at Cheryl@BezalelBooks.com.

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  • DOK

    You are aabsolutely right, Cheryl. In fact I have started a movement in the Church called th “Daughters of the King.” Its goal is to create a community (small groups of women, part of the larger whole) in which to cultivate our God-given femininity. Once women grow, accept, and begin to heal and live their gift of femininity to the fullest, they can then impart this and cultivate this gift in their families, in the Church and in society. We use a three pronged approach – educational, experiential, and spiritual, which then leads women into doing apostolic work as well. If you’d like more information feel free to email me at dok@catholicexchange.com. (Our website is under construction).

  • CherylDickow

    I’ve received a couple of questions regarding the events that go with this series and wanted to share some additional information. The authors offer many different talks and it is best to contact them directly. They do mother-daughter events for local parishes and diocese and a wide variety of book related talks. They actually have a number of book signings also scheduled as this is an awesome time of year for gift giving of books, so if you are fortunate enough to live in their areas of Wisconsin or Michigan, let them know. Either way, their websites are http://www.TeresaTomeo.com and http://www.RunwaytoReality.org

  • yblegen

    Thank you!!!! Thank you!!! Thank you!!!

    I tell my granddaughter how she is always a princess even when she is not wearing her princess dresses because she is the daughter of the King. She can’t help it. That is who she is. She get’s it. I can see the skepticism in the eyes of those around me as I speak those words to any little girl I see. The adults don’t get it but the little girls have no doubt to the truth of those words.

  • CherylDickow

    yblegen,

    Beautifully said. May I say that you are a true blessing to your family.

    I know that grandparents everywhere are embracing these books as a way to ensure their granddaughters are getting that faith-filled message of what it means to be a daughter of the King. And the beauty of our Catholic faith is absolutely alive on these pages! When the work on the prayer journal was completed, Teresa Tomeo (one of the authors) said, “I want one!” And we all laughed and agreed!

  • CherylDickow

    DOK,

    It sounds like you and the authors of this series have an event in the making! I would highly recommend getting in touch with them because what they offer is outstanding.

  • Daughter of the King

    This is so way cool. It’s something I’ve personally been writing about for years in my own journals and miscellaneous articles. My old business card even had the title “Daughter of the King”. My new business cards have the title “Beloved daughter of the King of Kings”.
    Confirmation is good. In fact it’s wonderful. I can’t wait to get my hands on these books. No doubt they will be well received by my daughters who have been hearing it from me already. Thank you!

  • Warren Jewell

    This a portion of the bone I pick with Catholic catechesis. It is part of the lessons unlearned about ‘eternity’ – as in ‘the eternal daughter-princess (son-prince in my case) to the eternal King’. In twelve years Catholic education, not once was eternity’s vital importance and vitality under God given much air.

    It took a murmur in prayer about being meant for eternity as son of God, Who is King, for me to put it into active and contemplative perspective. At the very least, it has deep effects on possible evangelism, for royal speaks thus to royal.

    All children should hear that they have an eternal destiny marked by a divinely royal diadem of love and grace.

    So, when do we get ‘All Things Boy’? Should I forward this article, comments included, to the National Fellowship of Catholic Men? And, how much ‘Dad’ input went into ‘All Things Girl’? I would anticipate the clan nurturers – among them, the very one the usually adult male celebrity addresses, with grin and wave, with ‘Hi, Mom!’ – to have things to offer and add to the ‘Boy’ side.

    God be with you, ladies, daughters-in-waiting of our eternal Queen held blessed by all generations for all time and on into eterniy. Mother Mary, claim your daughters eternally for our King. All you saints and angels, help our daughters to get Home, where their Father-King has ‘jewels set in gold’ and ‘silken brocades’ for their adornment. Even glorified, the ladies will blush at our Father’s delighted and joyful pleasure just at seeing them.

  • CherylDickow

    Warren,

    From the very first pages of each book in the series is the emphasis (from the Baltimore Catechism) that each girl is on earth to “know, love, and serve God in this life and to be happy with Him forever in the next.” The essence of the series is to do just that but also live this life well. It is a series that many fathers and grandfathers are buying for their daughters. I do pray you will forward this article to the National Fellowship of Catholic Men.

    JPII was the greatest “dad” influence in the series as his writings are very much the basis for the books, most especially Theology of the Body and Mulieris Dignitatem.

    Speaking of jewels set in gold, the authors offer a craft in the first book to make just such a bracelet and are now offering the kits. They are a great way for girls to remember who they are as princesses! http://www.RunwaytoReality.org

    Please help share the word about this wonderful series and may God bless you for your efforts.

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